I received unexpected parenting tips from Roland

I take on too many roles in my family. I manage my daughters' health, education, mental care, housework, and I am also a working mom.

If this were a company, I would be doing too much on my own to the point where people would be put off. I can imagine people whispering, 'That person is doing everything by herself and getting all flustered.' And, to be clear, my husband does cooperate with childcare and housework.

However, my own arbitrary fixed ideas like ”this has to be done this way” get in the way, and I even get irritated when things aren't done the way I imagined. I am a very troublesome person.

Looking back, when I lived with my husband before we were married, I was perfectly fine even if we didn't wash the dishes or do the laundry for a while. We lived freely and as we pleased.

My mother would be surprised when she occasionally visited and would do the dishes for us. That was the level we were at.

But after we got married, a selfish sense of responsibility that 'I must keep this household running' was born within me, and I became a demon of the home. My husband was honestly put off by my sudden change.

I can rely on people at work, so why do I try to do everything by myself at home?

At that time, I was spending time watching the host series on ROLAND's YouTube channel, which I had become addicted to for a while. From his position as president, ROLAND said this to a subordinate who was about to collapse under the weight of responsibility:

'Don't carry it all on your own. Since your position requires you to tell the people below you what to do, it's time to have a reliable junior colleague take care of the younger ones.'

In short, when you are in a role where you have to say strict things, have a junior colleague ready to provide support. I thought that was a very clever way of thinking.

And I was shocked, wondering why I hadn't noticed such an obvious thing. I should do the same thing in my own home.

When I think back to my own childhood, I remember being scolded severely when I tried to help my mother cook and dropped an egg on the floor. (My mother was probably stressed and didn't have the capacity to deal with it at the time.)

But my father immediately came to me, hugged me, and said, 'It's okay.'

So, rather than the memory of being scolded when I tried to help, that memory was overwritten by the memory of my father being kind to me, so it didn't become a bad memory.

I immediately told my husband, 'I might start teaching the girls table manners and other small things, and I might be strict, but please take care of the children's mental support.'

There are times when the roles are reversed and I am the one providing support, but I feel that the point is not to do everything by myself. That is what it comes down to. Teamwork is essential for childcare as well.

I still can't do it well yet, but I want to keep updating our own way of parenting.

YouTube isn't bad if you can get parenting tips from it.