35/The argument that 'it's always me' actually exists

Lately, there's been a trend of talking about 'externalizing blame,' being a 'taker,' and how 'it's not good to blame others.'
And honestly, that's true.
One of my mottos is 'everything in this world is self-responsibility.'
But is that really true?
Is it really the case that no one else around you is at fault, and it's entirely your own problem?

I don't think that's the case at all.
In human relationships, is there ever a situation where only one person is at fault?
Please set aside things like bullying or domestic violence for now. Let's talk about close people like family, friends, or colleagues.
Honestly, to begin with, there are just 'thoughtless people' out there, aren't there?
If we're talking about being that way in some areas, everyone has that potential.
Setting other things aside, there are people who are just a bit off when it comes to certain things. Apparently, I have that tendency too.
Let's put that aside for now; those are outliers.
If they are fine as a person when viewed comprehensively, I'll leave it at that.
Because if they are close to me, I can understand and tolerate that, and if they aren't close, I can just keep my distance.

But there are things that bother you more the closer you are to someone.
It's about the difference in consideration.
It's not about something vague like 'thoughtfulness,' but about standards.
Even with manners and morals, there's a general sense of what's acceptable, right?
The kind of thing where if you strictly follow it, people say, 'You're so serious, lol.'
Well, I don't need recognition for being serious on my own, but I still don't understand why people laugh at that.
Consideration means, for example, being mindful of the other person's time when you go out with a group.
If it's a shop the other person doesn't seem interested in, asking them before staying too long.
Making sure no one is left alone or walking behind the group by themselves.
That kind of thing.

Of course, this is just me overthinking it.
I'm just worrying unnecessarily and tiring myself out.
With that understanding, the response is, 'Well, you're not thinking enough, then.'
Of course, I don't say that. Because I'm just overthinking it.
But why don't people check the time when someone has said, 'I have something to do, so I want to go home by X o'clock'?
If you're close, you should know their range of interests to some extent.
Have you ever walked right behind someone outside and heard every single word of the conversation in front of you?
When they ask 'Are you okay?' later, what else am I supposed to say besides 'I'm fine'?
If it were me, I would check the time periodically, ask first or wrap things up early if it's a shop they don't seem interested in, and be careful not to walk in a way that excludes someone from the conversation.

I'm just assuming I'm being considerate anyway.
Surely this isn't necessary. But I do it, and I'm capable of it.
So if it's not done for me, I do think, 'I'm being treated with indifference.'
It's not about good or bad, or what should or shouldn't be done.
This is a difference in standards. People with different standards are living in the same society.
I don't want anyone to do anything about it; it's just that 'it's always me' naturally exists, that's all.