Why you lose sight of your core values after deciding on them

Introduction

"I want to have my own core values."

You thought about it, considered it, and decided on them.
However, after a while, many people feel like this.

"So, what were my core values again?"

This is not because you have a weak will or lack talent.
In many cases, you just didn't know how to 'handle' your core values.

This time, I will talk about the reasons why you might lose sight of your core values even after you thought you had decided on them.

Are you leaving them alone after deciding on them once?

This is probably the most common reason.

After deciding on your "core values,"
you end up forgetting them.

Core values are, in a sense, a "big promise."
Even promises with friends are forgotten if you don't write them down or look back at them.

It is the same with that;
a promise to yourself has no meaning if it is not looked back upon.

Continuing to remember them is more important
than deciding on them.

If this rings a bell,
you should try writing them down in a place you see often or keeping them on your smartphone screen.

You haven't decided on actions that align with your core values

Earlier, I wrote that core values are a "big promise."

In a company, this is close to a philosophy or set of values.
However, a company will not move just by posting a philosophy.

In the same way,
there are many people for whom nothing changes just by deciding on their core values.

The reason is simple:
because you haven't decided on "what to do" in line with those core values.

What will you do to keep your promise?
There is no need to overthink it.

・Decide on a promise (core values)
・Decide on actions to keep that promise

Only when these two things are in place does your core truly function.

Have you decided on it to the point where it truly resonates with you?

This is also a very important point.

I want to ask those who have taken action to 'have a core'.
How much does it truly resonate with you?

In my case, I placed myself in an online salon environment.
However, it wasn't that I was taught anything special there.

What was valuable was
having a place where I could put my thoughts into words and have others give me feedback.

I would gather with peers and talk.
I would try explaining my core values.
Then, I would be asked, 'Is that really how you feel?'

By repeating this exchange,
the core I had thought up in my head gradually sank down into my intuition.

Of course,
you can also build your core on your own.

However, I feel that
as a result, it is easier to build a core that doesn't waver if you decide on it while outputting to someone else.

What's important isn't the name of the place.
It's whether you have an environment where you can speak your thoughts and get feedback.

Conclusion

A core that doesn't waver
is not something you can have just because you decided on it strongly once.

Only those who have looked back, translated it into action, put it into words, and
continued to face it, will end up with a core that doesn't waver.

From now on, I will continue to write,
based on my own experiences, about the points where people tend to get stuck when 'facing themselves,'
and ways of thinking that often lead to detours.

If your thoughts have been organized even a little,
I would be happy if you followed me and read the continuation somewhere else.