The Magic of Comfortable Distance: 10 Pieces of Wisdom for Building a 'Clear Bond' with Loved Ones (Part 6)

Two people who can 'share' silence are the strongest

'I have to say something to fill the gap.'

'If there's no reply, I feel like the distance between our hearts has grown.'

We often try to fill the 'blank space' between us and our loved ones
with words.

If we view silence as 'awkward' or 'anxiety-inducing,' we end up unable to maintain our own peace of mind unless we are constantly exchanging words.

However, the proof of a mature adult relationship lies in the 'silence' itself.

In this sixth installment, I will talk about 'silent love,' which allows you to richly share time without words
and makes your bond even stronger.

1. Silence is proof of 'trust'

Imagine this. With someone you truly trust,
don't you feel comfortable even if you are in the same room doing different things, or if you don't exchange words for hours?

Being able to share silence is proof
that there is a deep sense of security, knowing that 'the other person accepts me even if I don't dress myself up with words.'

Just as Atsu-san values 'choosing not to contact and quietly watching over' friends.

Silence is not rejection; it is the highest form of message, saying, 'I trust you, so
it's okay not to force words.'

2. Connecting through 'presence' beyond words

The same can be said for digital interactions.
The time when a message is read but not replied to, or the time when contact is lost for a few days.

Instead of calling it a 'blank space,'
respect it as 'time when the other person is living their own life to the fullest.'

Even while the exchange of words has stopped,
you are connected at the bottom of your hearts through 'presence.'

'That person is working hard somewhere right now, too.'
Holding a feeling like a quiet prayer from afar.

This connection, like an invisible thread,
binds two people together more strongly than any sweet words.

3. The advanced technique of 'doing nothing'

If you cannot bear the silence and send too many messages out of anxiety,
it may not be a lack of trust in the other person, but actually a lack of trust in yourself.

'Doing nothing' is actually an advanced technique that requires much more energy than 'doing something.'

Embrace your own anxiety yourself, and wait, trusting the other person's timing.

That quiet strength brings an overwhelming 'sense of stability' to the relationship.

Because there is a margin called silence, the next time words are exchanged,
that word will reach the other person's heart more deeply and warmly.

4. A heart lesson you can start today: 'Savoring' the silence

Today, when you interact with a loved one (or when you think of them),
try to consciously create a 'moment to stop words.'

Put down your smartphone, enjoy a quiet tea time, or just look up at the sky.

In that silence,
try telling yourself, 'Even without words, we are connected.'

When you become able to love silence,
your relationships will have been updated
to a genuine 'strongest bond' that is not swayed by superficial techniques.

🌈 Next Preview:
Episode 7 The Power to 'Imagine' the Other Person's Background (Illness or Circumstances)

What you see is not everything there is to a person.
We will share how to hone the imagination needed to stand by someone's 'unseen suffering,' which is also the foundation of Atsu-san's activities.