I discovered tips on how to become an ideal leader, even though I rarely take on that role
Hello everyone,
I'm Rurun!
For those of you reading this article,
what kind of role do you usually take on when working in a team?
I'm usually not the type to take on a leadership role, but rather someone who supports those around me.
However, I work part-time as a coach at a sports club.
That's a job that requires leadership skills, isn't it? Haha.
Actually, I'm quite bad at being a leader...
In particular, I have a hard time with
【conveying things that are difficult to say but must be said】
which is necessary as an instructor or leader...
But the purpose of having instructors and supporters is to
help students improve and grow both mentally and physically,
and to achieve goals.
I want to become a solid part of that, too...
How can I, even with my sense of inadequacy, manage to
【convey things that are difficult to say but must be said】
?
While living and thinking about such things, I somehow discovered a small hint!
~ Hints from Yamato of Comdot ~
I have recently been hooked on Comdot and watch them often.
It's partly because they are simply funny, but also because Yamato, who is a member and also serves as the leader and president, has thoughts and a drive that are very educational...
In particular, as a leader,
his stance of properly conveying necessary opinions even to his peers who are "local friends" (a flat relationship), and leading them on that basis, matches the leader image I want to aim for, and I think it's cool.
Yamato has charisma that is incomparable to mine, and he is a hard worker and smart, but
after watching many videos, I felt there were things I could incorporate myself as someone in a position to lead.
That is
【loving the members more than anyone else】 itself.
When he interacts with members, it really comes across through his attitude and expressions that he must love them dearly.
Also, to make the group Comdot, which includes such members, better, he thinks things through seriously, does what he can, takes on difficult tasks, and communicates them...
I think he is a person with that kind of genuine love.
And I feel that he understands, or tries to understand, the other person more than anyone else.
I felt from the small details in the videos that he observes carefully and talks to each person to understand their thoughts.
Surely, everything comes down to
loving your members and cherishing them like family
With that idea as the fundamental premise,
even if it is a group that started as friends, you must switch gears when doing work,
precisely because they are important, and precisely because you want to work hard together
[Saying what needs to be said properly]
is also something I felt they were doing as an important part of that
I felt that this allows both sides to face each other properly
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On the other hand...
When I have to say something difficult, I think about [myself],
• because I don't know how to follow up afterwards
• because I wonder what I will be thought of
and my mindset has been to
convey things as indirectly as possible, so as not to hurt them,
softly and gently
But that was
not really thinking about the other person
it was for my own sake
That is what I realized when
I couldn't sincerely feel the same frustration as if it were my own
when a student failed in a match.
I realized I hadn't been facing them with true resolve...
I have such regrets...
I felt so frustrated...
I thought that what I might be lacking is
to truly love and care for my students.
It doesn't matter what people think of me,
and once I can convey what needs to be conveyed to my beloved members when necessary, and think of it as a means to an end,
I felt that maybe I could grow myself as well...!
It's hard to do right away, but
my perspective has broadened✨
Thank you for reading!