The result of not saying "Study"

Good evening ^^
This is miyabi.

Today, I'd like to talk about how
"someone can help you realize things, but
only you can change yourself."

That is the topic for today ^^

This is about my second son,
who is now in his first year of high school,
and from about the fourth grade of elementary school,
well~~~ he just wouldn't study (lol).

Homework?
Assignments??
Yeah, he didn't even know what he was supposed to do.

Shortly before his high school entrance exams,
it was normal for him to come home
with a zero on his tests ^^;
(If you write something, wouldn't you get at least one right...?)

But I
"Study!"
I never said that to him.

The reason is,
I myself don't remember my parents
ever telling me to "study"
when I was a child.

In the end, I only remember studying when a friend invited me,
when I became interested in something myself,
or when I thought, "I need this."

I mean, if your family
tells you to do this or that,
doesn't it just kill your motivation...?

So, I just thought
they should do it
when they feel it's necessary
for themselves.

People don't do things unless they feel a sense of crisis,
like on the last day of summer vacation.

When he actually got zeros in several subjects in his third year of junior high, I did wonder,
"Should I have pushed him
a little more...?"

but I was conflicted.

Even though he was like that,
my second son
changed completely after entering high school.

Since starting high school,
he seems to be turning in his assignments properly,
and his test scores are incomparable to when he was in junior high.

Believe it or not,
no failing grades.
He's also turning in
almost 100% of his assignments.
(Considering where he started...)

"Wait, that second son of mine?"
"What happened?"
I was so surprised (laughs).

But I guess my second son himself
thought, "I need to do this properly in high school."

Surely, no matter how many times teachers or parents say it,
if the person doesn't think it's necessary,
they won't change easily.

In fact,
when he was being constantly warned by his teachers,
he kept asking me, "Why do I even have to study??"

That said,
talking about university this and that...
talking about employment this and that...
I felt that was a different conversation.

To get into the details,
at this age,
they get annoyed listening to that kind of talk.

Things like "so you won't have trouble when you're an adult" or
"if you don't know the basics, it'll be hard to get by in the world"
"if you don't know, you're more likely to lose out"
"if you have no common sense and can't communicate, you won't be able to work"

I tried explaining things like that, but
they weren't convinced.
(Finding the right words that resonate is difficult, isn't it...)

But,
the moment someone thinks "I have to do this" for themselves,
they change.

I think this
is the same
even after becoming an adult.

You can have someone
"You should do this."
"You should do it this way."
tell you things.

You can read a book and
"I see!"
realize something.

You can listen to someone's story and
"I want to change too."
think that.

But,
just realizing it
doesn't change reality.

In the end,
you try it yourself.
You take action.

Only then,
does something start to change.

That was actually the case for me personally.

I wanted to work in a job related to overseas, so
I went to vocational training to study trade-related subjects.

Using what I learned there,
I was actually able to get a job involving overseas work.

But,
what if I had stopped studying halfway through?

What if I had studied,
but didn't actually take any action?

I don't think it would have
led to a job involving overseas work.

Side hustles are the same.
If I had learned about content business,
"I see!"
and just thought that,
I wouldn't be sharing information like this now.

I learned,
and I actually tried it.
While failing, thinking,
and improving,
I kept going.

That is why,
it leads to where I am now.

Of course,
having someone teach you,
or having someone help you realize things
is extremely important.

Because there are things
you cannot realize on your own.

But,
what happens after that is up to you.

Someone can help you realize something. But only you can change yourself.

So if right now,
"I want to try a side hustle."
"I'm curious about content business."
"But, maybe it's too much for me yet."

If you are thinking that,
I don't think you need to
start with something big right away.

First, try looking it up. Try reading someone's posts. Try studying it. Try making one post.

Even if it's small,
try taking one step yourself.

I believe that one step
will connect to your future self.

Watching my second son,
"People really do change
when they realize they need to."

I thought that once again.

What changes your life
might not be someone else's words,
but the actions you finally take yourself.

By the way, lately
I've been enjoying reading the haikus
on the back of Ito En green tea packages,
and I found this one.

“Cicada's cry, where should I put my full effort?”
*18 years old

Seeing this,
I thought, "Wow, this really resonates."
It really struck a chord with me.

Well then ^^
miyabi,

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