Reasons Why You Don't Know What You Want to Do

You feel a vague sense of difficulty in living.
In particular, it's not that your job is hard.
It's not that things aren't going well at home.
It's not that you have any particular anxieties.
It's not that there are problems with your relationships.

Even so, you feel a vague sense of being trapped.

You don't feel like you are living vibrantly.
You have nothing to pour your energy into.
You don't feel like every day is enjoyable.

I think there are quite a lot of people who vaguely feel this way.

I myself had a period like that in the past.
Also, it is not rare for me to receive consultations about such things.

Not knowing what you want to do

What I feel when receiving consultations from such people is that in many cases, they actually know what they want to do, but have given up on it for some reason or are trying not to be conscious of it.

It is a state where you are putting the brakes on yourself, even though no one told you to.

Furthermore, you are not aware that you are applying the brakes.

Bound by assumptions

In my case, I didn't have the courage to take the first step, but
I brought up the reason that I had to earn a stable income because I was the eldest son,
and convinced myself.

One client was convinced somewhere deep down that they shouldn't be happy, and they were not aware of that fact.

Another person thought that because their parents had worked hard to raise them, they too had to suffer.

Such unconscious assumptions were binding them and causing them to lose their freedom.

Releasing the unconscious brakes

Because of thoughts that had bound me before I knew it, I had become unconsciously unable to think freely.

People bind themselves with assumptions that have no particular basis.

Noticing those bonds is necessary to honestly recognize your own desires.

What is it that is placing restrictions on you?
By focusing on that and engaging in repeated dialogue with yourself, what you really want to do will become visible.

Of course, it is not necessarily the case that there is only one thing you want to do,
but if you cannot face your honest self without these bonds, there are times when you won't know what you really want to do.

Now, what are the thoughts that are holding you back?
Because of those thoughts, have you become unable to access your own feelings?

If you explore that area, you might gain various insights.