To You Who Feel Like You Are 'Doing Nothing': 3 Tips to Ease Your Inferiority Complex
I feel like I'm the only one standing still
In the morning, when I open my phone, people my age are constantly thriving.
They are working busily, growing, and shining.
Compared to them, I am...
Doing nothing
Being left behind
Don't you ever feel that way?
I do sometimes, too.
Even when I'm working on something, I get anxious, wondering, 'Is this really okay?'
I compare myself to others and end up feeling down on my own.
But recently, I found a way to be a little kinder to myself when I feel that way.
Let me share that with you today.
1. Is it true that you are 'doing nothing'?
When I see people working busily, I start to feel like I'm not doing anything.
But I want you to stop for a moment and think.
Are you really 'doing nothing'?
You wake up in the morning and eat your meals
You go to work and complete the tasks you've been given
You've made it this far, even while struggling
Isn't that amazing in itself?
We tend to think that 'if we aren't doing something special, we have no value,' but
the small things we accumulate every day truly have meaning.
Small actions: Try counting the things you 'are doing'
For example, let's write down what you did today.
Went to work
Stopped by the supermarket on the way home
Replied to a friend's LINE message
Even with small things like that, you can feel that you are moving forward.
2. When you feel like you are 'not growing'
You compare your current self to when you were working busily.
'Back then, I was growing so much more,' you think.
But growth doesn't always come in 'easy-to-see forms'.
For example, enduring difficult situations or trying to organize your feelings.
Those 'invisible growths' are definitely there, too.
In fact, when you are struggling, you might actually be doing mental strength training.
3. Re-evaluating your 'way of working'
If you feel like you 'want to work more busily',
perhaps your current place is not the right fit for you.
Instead of forcing yourself to keep enduring,
try starting a small side job
consider changing jobs
try starting something on your own
By re-evaluating your 'way of working' like that, your heart might start to move again.
Of course, it is okay if you don't act immediately.
Just thinking, 'I see, those are options too,' will make you feel a little more at ease.
Summary
When you feel like you are 'doing nothing',
it might actually be a sign that your heart is working hard.
It is okay if you cannot stop comparing yourself to others.
But each time you do, try to remember your own pace a little bit.
You are walking just fine.
Don't rush, just go at your own pace.
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