That night I doubted my husband became the turning point for our marriage

Lately, my husband has been coming home late.

It was common for him to leave work at 10 PM, but for the past few days, it's been 11 PM...

He gets home and doesn't go to bed until 1 AM. Does it really take that long to eat and take a bath?

My husband has a personal rule that he needs to wait a while after eating before he can sleep. But he only eats a little when he's late, so does it really take that much time to digest?

Once I start thinking about it, all sorts of possibilities come to mind, and even though I don't want to be suspicious, I can't stop thinking about it.

Hmm, it's bothering me.

Could he be having an affair? Not my husband, surely not.

My husband is not the type to be interested in other women at all; he has never even been to a drinking party or a hostess club. Seeing how he actively participates in housework and childcare for the sake of our family and me, I feel fully loved by him.

But could there be a hidden side to that kindness...?

I've heard stories of people who were having affairs even though their partners never suspected a thing.

Once I start doubting, I can't sleep because it's all I can think about.

So, I took a look! At my husband's phone 💦
(We usually use each other's phones when necessary, so I didn't have any resistance to doing that 💦)

And then I found one LINE conversation that bothered me... 😱😱😱⚡️

Judging by the conversation and the dates, it seems to be someone who transferred from his workplace this fiscal year, and they apparently talked about their families often.

There was one exchange after she transferred, and he sent her a family photo from our son's entrance ceremony. What! Did he send that on his own? And looking at the time, he sent it after he got home.

Wait? We were together then, weren't we?
If you have time to chat with another woman, play with your children instead!
You said you wanted to come home earlier to spend time with the kids!!!

And besides, why did you exchange LINE contacts? If she transferred, there's no need to exchange them, right?

What's more, the fact that my husband promised to send her photos every time there was an event from now on really disgusted me. I thought, 'Gross!!!!'

The other person even used a 💕 emoji in her message.
I've decided to only send 💞 to my lover, my husband, or very close female friends, so I was shocked!!

Regardless of what the other person's intentions are, the very fact that someone who I feel has a 'broken sense of distance' is interacting with my husband makes me feel uncomfortable.

Ah, which one is it? I don't know.
I had planned to sleep peacefully, but instead, I became even more unable to sleep.

Ugh, so restless, so restless...

Wait? But the fact that I'm this restless and sad to the point of not being able to sleep means that I still care about my husband this much.

I was made to realize that.

Since having children, our lives have centered around them, and my husband has been put on the back burner.
Maybe that's why he started joking often, saying, "You don't pay attention to me lately."

I also felt lonely because, even though I felt we were truly connected when we were dating or before we had kids, now we often end up missing each other over trivial things, fighting, and crying.

We have talked a lot, but it was all about raising the kids.
We never talked about the two of us at all.

The next day, I immediately tried talking to my husband.

And then... it was unexpected!!!!

The person he was with was someone who had already retired and was apparently a grandmother head-over-heels for her grandchildren😂😂😂

What was all that time I spent worrying for!!!
He laughed when I told him I wanted my sleep time back😂😂😂

Well, I was relieved by this, but I deeply regretted that I had been taking his kindness for granted.

We talked about how we would think about the two of us from now on, and we were able to reconfirm that we both had been feeling lonely, so I'm glad we talked😌

Since then, my husband's behavior has started to change.
He started consulting AI about work efficiency, and he even said he would make sure to have one day a week where he comes home early!...

As for me, I've become able to honestly say "Thank you" when he does chores, and I've started thinking about getting the housework done before he gets home...

It's amazing!! It's incredible how much things change just by having our feelings reach each other☺️

Actually, my parents don't have a good relationship.

When I was a child, they would fight and not speak to each other for days.
At those times, as children, my siblings and I would even seriously discuss, "If they get a divorce, who will you go with?"
For a child, that is a major crisis where the place you feel safe is threatened.

I'm sure things were going well at first.
I have memories of my parents seeming to get along well.
But sadly, they gradually started missing each other somewhere along the way.

I've always thought it's so lonely when people who got together because they loved each other end up missing each other and things stop working out.

That's why I've always wanted to cherish our marriage, for the sake of our children and for ourselves.

But once I found myself in that position...
I realized I had been putting our relationship on the back burner.

What this experience made me realize once again is thata marriage doesn't just get better on its own if you leave it alone.

Perhaps the kind of marriage we want to aim for isn't something we can see unless we talk about it together.

Whether you're getting along well or things are a bit strained, why not try talking to your partner once about“What kind of couple do we want to be?”

Every marriage is different, but I believe that time is never wasted, both for the sake of your children and for yourself.😌

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