Since you only have one life, I stopped copy-pasting my past self while feeling uneasy. ⑥
Even though we only have one life,
why do we
copy-paste our past selves
and live that way?
Read the room. Endure. Don't make waves.
Before I knew it,
I stopped questioning if that was
the "correct way for an adult to live."
Honestly, copy-pasting is easy.
You don't have to think,
you don't have to stand out,
and it's hard to be criticized.
But—
is that really okay?
The place where correctness crumbled in an instant
I have had an experience where that premise
crumbled in an instant.
That was
doing business with people from China.
While working at a trading company and dealing with China,
our "logical arguments"
meant almost nothing.
Sincerity,
logical consistency,
and the Japanese way of "doing things properly"
surprisingly
did not get through.
At first,
it was one surprise after another.
You've got to be kidding me, right!?
Contract details were also
often interpreted in ways completely different from our common sense,
and it was one shock after another.😅
"That's strange"
"That's usually impossible"
"Isn't that cheating?"
There were many times I thought things like that.
Correctness is not universal
But, at one point,
I suddenly realized.
Oh, this—
it's just that Japanese-style correctness
isn't correct here.
Correctness is not universal.
If the country changes,
the culture,
the values,
and the way of "getting things done" in negotiations
are all different.
And this is
not just a story about overseas.
If the company is different,
if the family is different,
if the people are different,
even in the same Japan,
we are living in
completely different worlds.
Where is a copy-paste life created?
We
paste the molds we were taught were "correct"
onto our lives
without ever questioning them.
・This is how it should be
・Because you are an adult
・It is better not to make waves
Before I knew it,
even though it is my own life,
it was following someone else's template.
It is easy,
but somehow suffocating.
But I get used to
that suffocation.
That might be
the true nature of a "copy-paste life."
What I stopped was "correctness"
So, I
gradually stopped brandishing correctness.
What I did instead was
not to change the method,
but to change my stance.
I stopped trying to change the other person and
tried shifting
where I was looking.
And then,
I tried laughing at
the differences with a "hahaha" 🤣.
Laughter is
not about conforming to the other person,
nor is it about lowering yourself.
It is the space to get closer to the other person.
When you change your perspective, the world is no longer full of enemies
When you are clinging to correctness,
the world looks like it is full of enemies.
But,
when you change your perspective,
you realize the world is made of people who are
just "different."
In that moment,
negotiations,
relationships,
and life itself
become a little lighter.
You are allowed to re-edit your life
Since you only have one life,
while feeling uneasy😶🌫️,
I stopped copy-pasting
my past self as it was.
While laughing out loud,
re-edit your life's negotiations
on your own
and update them.
That is
the origin of the Hahaha Negotiation Technique.
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