When you want to change yourself, try focusing on 'one thing at a time'
Changing yourself
can be a very difficult thing.
Because 'yourself' is something
that has been built up
throughout your life so far,
it cannot be changed immediately.
🌿When you think about changing yourself,
it can become painful precisely because
you try to change everything at once.
🌿First, pick out
'just one thing' within yourself,
and start by changing that.
For example...
・Procrastinating on tasks
If you want to change that part,
●Do the task for just 10 minutes,
then take a break and do something you like
in this way,
🌿set a short time at first,
and add a reward for yourself for working hard
is one such method.
🌼Once you clear that,
choose another part of yourself you want to change
and pick one again,
Make a concrete plan for just that one thing.
🌼By doing that,
and changing things one by one,
before you know it, the thing called 'yourself'
will change.
🌸If you try to do everything from the start,
and you can't even do one of them,
you might think you can't do anything or that it's impossible for you,
which can lead to giving up or feeling mentally down,
draining your energy.
🌸That is why,
'one thing at a time' is the key.
💠 People tend to notice their flaws
much more readily than their good qualities.
💠 Try writing them down,
prioritize them,
and then, one by one from the top,
tackling the actions you can change
is one way to go about it.
🌈 If you want to change 'yourself'
but find you cannot,
it is okay to just change one thing.
If even one thing changes,
that counts as
'having changed yourself'.
🌈If you manage to change one thing,
please make sure to praise yourself properly.
🌈'Praising yourself'
might seem meaningless,
but whether you do this or not
can affect your future actions, direction, thoughts, energy,
and so on...
Many things can change as a result.
🌈I'm sure you have had many experiences where you denied yourself and
blamed yourself, thinking it was your fault.
There have been many such times in the past.
As a result of that,
what happened to your heart?
What happened to your way of thinking?
How have your words and actions been
after doing that?
It is the same principle.
💐Even just by changing the words you use for yourself,
'yourself' will begin to change.