#142 The Boundary of Education We Must Not Forget - Are Teachers Supposed to Accept Everything? -

"Let's foster independence."
"Let's value children's individuality."
"Let's embrace diversity."

In the field of education, there is not a day that goes by without hearing these words. I myself keep them in mind as important concepts.

That is precisely why I have been thinking about something a lot lately.

Are we truly using these words with a full understanding of their meaning?

Is the boundary becoming blurred?

Independence.
Freedom.
Individuality.
Diversity.

These are all words we are told to value or hear often in the world of education.

However, on the other hand,

Selfishness.
Neglect.
Self-centeredness.
Self-serving behavior.

Are there not situations where these are treated in the same way?

Even if the words sound similar,the essence is completely different.

I believe that what is important in education isnot to blur this boundary.

Independence is not "doing whatever you want"

If you were asked, "What is independence?" how would you answer? The independence I think of is

It is very important to give children choices. However,

"I won't do it because I don't want to."
"I'm quitting because I don't like it."
"I won't follow the rules because I'm not convinced."

This is by no means independence. Independencealways comes with responsibility.Freedom without responsibility is not independence, but merely self-convenience.

Teachers are not "people who accept everything"

Teachers accept children's feelings. I think every day that I want to accept them and move forward together with them.

However, accepting is different from acknowledging. Understanding is also different from forgiving.

It is important to listen by asking, "Why did you think that way?" However, I also believe it is important education to then say, "That is not right," "Let's follow the rules here," or "It is not acceptable to hurt others." I do not want to blur this boundary.

What I wish for as both a parent and a teacher

I am a teacher, but I am also a parent with a child.

That is precisely why I wish for children to be able to value the people around them more than I wish for them to be good at their studies. First, their family. Children who can show respect to the adults around them who guide them. And children who can value their friends.

Children who can think not only of their own feelings but also of the other person's perspective. As far as I know, society is not a place that always goes the way you want it to. That is why, during childhood, they need to learn:

They need to learn these things through experience. This is not to restrict the child, but so that the child can live happily in society in the future.

The educational boundary I don't want to forget

Valuing a child is different from accepting everything a child says.

Autonomy vs. selfishness.
Freedom vs. self-indulgence.
Diversity vs. disorder.
Acceptance vs. neglect.

If we blur this boundary, children will not be able to truly acquire the skills to live in society.

That is why I believe it is important for adults themselves to first share this boundary.

Children grow up watching the adults around them. What we accept and what we firmly communicate—I believe that each of these steps builds toward the children's future. Thank you for reading again today.

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