Sometimes You Understand Things at the Very End

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I am candy@, approaching my sixties.

Are you someone whose outward appearance matches your inner self?

It is surprisingly hard to tell for yourself, isn't it?

You might look scary but actually have a kind heart,

or you might look like a good person but actually be cold...

When my husband decided to marry me, he said he thought,“It’s going to be tough if I marry this girl.”I haven't asked him in detail what he thought would be tough.

It seems he had a strong impression of me as a “spoiled girl.”

I do think I have a somewhat selfish personality (laughs).

Since I lived comfortably at my parents' house until I got married, my husband didn't expect anything from me in terms of housework.

In fact, when my husband first came to my parents' house to greet them (he was my boyfriend at the time), my mother kept pressing him, saying,

“This girl can't do anything at all, are you sure that's okay?” and she was intimidating him.

When we first got married, my husband was surprised, grateful, and even moved just because I cooked rice.

Thankfully, my husband's expectations for me were quite low.

However, having quit my job to get married and becoming a so-called full-time housewife, I had plenty of time.

I learned unfamiliar housework little by little, studied cooking using cookbooks, and for the first month after we got married, I even made a different menu every day.

We were blessed with two children, and despite my clumsiness, we managed to get through the ups and downs of raising them, and now those daughters have grown into fine adults.

In the 30 years since we married, our couple has been through so much that it's impossible to sum up in a single word, with all its peaks and valleys.
So many events have rushed past us.

Recently, my husband said something to the effect of, 'You were the one who had it tough after we married; I didn't have it tough at all. I'm truly a lucky man to have married such a wonderful person.'

(It was all in Kansai dialect, but I've written it here as if it were standard Japanese.)

When I decided to marry my husband, I didn't choose him based on criteria like his educational background, salary (I didn't even know how much he earned), his looks, or whether he was reliable.

I remember it was just a feeling that 'this person might be a bit pushy, but he's very kind and it seems like it would be easy to be with him.'

My impression of my husband hasn't changed much from the beginning, even after more than 30 years; if anything, he turned out to be even kinder than I had imagined.

Of course, it hasn't been smooth sailing the whole time since we married, and we've both had our difficult periods.

But what I think now is that when you spend a long time together with mutual consideration, even if your hearts drift apart or cracks form temporarily,
before you know it, you become irreplaceable to each other.

Even if you don't understand it when you're young,

there are some things you only understand after more than 30 years.

When I think that if my husband had decided not to marry me because he thought it would be difficult, I might never have married him,

fate is a mysterious thing.

Perhaps there are cases where you don't need to check the answers to life right away.

Cheers to my husband's adventurous spirit!

At the very least, I wonder if my husband's gamble paid off.

Many things will likely happen to us in the future as well,

but since we've been able to overcome everything with my husband until now, I think we'll be just fine.

In any case, I hope this happy feeling continues for my husband and me until the very end.

Early in the new year, I find myself thinking about such things and feeling grateful to my husband.

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