Ignoring the 'Common Cold of the Heart' Known as Harassment: Mental Stretching to Find Inner Balance

We live our daily lives amidst a great deal of energy. There are people who are like a pleasant breeze, while others may sometimes direct prickly malice toward us.

If you are currently hurt by someone's words and your heart feels frayed, please first quietly accept this truth.

“It is not because you are at fault that such things are happening.”

The true nature of harassment is not your shortcoming, but rather something like a 'common cold of the heart' that the other person is suffering from. In this article, I will lightly unravel how this works and share some 'mental stretching' exercises to protect your inner radiance.

May a gentle calm return to your heart, even if you have been hurt in the past.

Chapter 1: Changing Perspectives—The True Nature of the 'Lack of Freedom' Others Carry

Why do some people go out of their way to harass others? Knowing the background makes things look a little different.

• A manifestation of a lack of mental energy: People who are not fulfilled themselves try to gain a momentary 'sense of impact' by causing negative reactions in those around them. It is like being lonely in the dark and trying to invite someone else into the same place.

• A distorted way of seeking 'connection':People are meant to connect through joy, but when they are in an immature state where they cannot do that, they can only interact with others through aggression. They use the stimulation of 'attack' to distract themselves from the emptiness in their own hearts.

Chapter 2: 'Flexible Immunology' for Building Mental Barriers

To avoid taking the other person's thorns to heart, it is important to draw a 'transparent boundary' within yourself.

1. Lighten the load with 'separation of tasks': The fact that the other person is in a bad mood is their own mental problem. You do not need to solve it for them, nor do you need to feel responsible. By simply observing objectively that 'their internal weather is quite stormy right now,' your heart remains protected.

2. Do not provide the 'nourishment' of a reaction: The other person's attacks grow by feeding on your troubled face or sad expression. By intentionally acting indifferent or mechanical, they lose that 'sense of impact' and will naturally drift away from you.

3. Image work of a veil of light: Try imagining a soft membrane of light around you. The moment negative words touch that membrane, they turn into fine sand and fall to your feet. Your inner self remains a clean and quiet space at all times.

Chapter 3: 'Emergency Self-Care' to Cherish Yourself

If you have already been deeply hurt, first let yourself retreat to the safest place you know.

• Shutting out information Rereading the other person's words or checking social media is the same as widening a wound. Just like closing a window, let's quietly shut out the information for now.

• Regaining the sense of 'here and now' When your thoughts are about to be hijacked by the other person, bring your consciousness back to your own body.

  • Wash your hands with cold water.

  • Deeply inhale the scent of your favorite herbal tea.

  • Touch the soft texture of your favorite fabric.

• Filling yourself with 'pleasant' energy Reduce the time you spend on the other person by even a second, and use that time for the things you 'love.' Gaze at the lush green of plants or surrender yourself to pleasant music. Pleasing yourself is your greatest defense.

Chapter 4: The 'Choice of Light' to Keep Searching for Happiness

Being subjected to harassment is also proof that you possess 'light.' Your freedom and health are too dazzling for those who are unfree, and they feel the urge to cast a shadow. However, no matter how much a shadow is cast, the sun that is your own value will never be tarnished.

From today, why not redirect your focus from the 'outside' to 'yourself'? 'What wonderful things shall I find today?' 'What kind of comforting words shall I say to myself?' You are the one who repaints your world with only the 'comfort' you choose.

Summary: 3 Promises to Keep Shining Like Yourself

• Draw a transparent boundary (Accept that the other person's emotions are their own property)

• Do not entrust your value to others (Affirm that immature words and actions have absolutely nothing to do with my value)

• Fill yourself with 'pleasure' (Especially when things are unpleasant, immerse yourself in what you love to align your energy)

As you repeat this 'mental stretching,' your heart will begin to shine more flexibly and strongly. Don't rush, and breathe deeply. After all, you are always the protagonist of your own life.

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Please have a free and flexible day where you can be yourself.