Things to consider when you want to quit your job due to interpersonal relationships

I want to quit my job.

When you feel that way, it might be easier to explain to others if the reason is the nature of the work itself.

The workload is too heavy.
Overtime continues.
The salary is not appropriate.
The job is not a good fit for me.

However, when you want to quit your job because of interpersonal relationships, it becomes a bit harder to put into words.

Are you quitting over something like that?
Interpersonal issues exist everywhere you go.
Can't you just endure it a little longer?

You might be afraid of being told things like that, so you end up telling no one.

In reality, every morning is painful.
In reality, just remembering the atmosphere of the workplace makes my chest feel heavy.
In reality, just the sound of that person's voice, their footsteps, or a chat notification makes my body tense up.

Even so, I don't know if I'm allowed to clearly say "I want to quit" to myself yet.

Maybe I'm overreacting.
Maybe I'm just weak.
Maybe this is normal for a working adult.

In this way, I keep minimizing my own suffering over and over again.

This article is not intended to encourage you to quit your job immediately.

However, when you are cornered to the point of wanting to quit your job due to interpersonal relationships, I hope this can be a time for you to look at your feelings without blaming yourself first.

You don't have to find the answer today.

But I believe there is a valid reason for the heaviness you are feeling right now.

The reality of interpersonal relationships that drive you to want to quit your job

When you are in a workplace where interpersonal relationships are difficult, the suffering does not end within working hours. From the moment you wake up in the morning until just before you fall asleep at night, the atmosphere of the workplace remains in your mind. Even on days when no one has said anything to you, just thinking about going to that place again tomorrow can make your body feel heavy. The desire to quit may not appear suddenly, but rather quietly spill over after the accumulation of daily, small tensions.

Staring at your smartphone screen before leaving for work in the morning and being unable to move

In the morning, after turning off the alarm, you remain unable to move while staring at your smartphone screen for a while.

Time is passing.
I have to get up.
I have to get ready or I'll be late.

Even though I know it in my head, I cannot get out of bed.

It's not so much that I dislike the work itself, but rather that I recall the atmosphere the moment I arrive at the workplace.

When I greet that person, will they greet me back today?
Will they give me that subtle look again?
Was my comment yesterday taken the wrong way?
Will I spend today reading someone's mood again?

In those few minutes in the morning, I'm already exhausted for the day.

While pretending to check notifications on my phone, I'm actually just delaying returning to reality for a little while.

I'm not looking at the news.
I'm not enjoying social media.
I'm just touching the screen.

Even so, the energy to go to work doesn't return.

When mornings like this continue, it can even become frightening.

Do I want to quit my job?
Or do I just want to take today off?
I can't even tell the difference anymore.

But the feeling of your body not moving in the morning isn't caused by a lack of willpower.

It is often a sign that your heart no longer feels that place is safe.

The moment when words get stuck during a conversation with a colleague

When someone speaks to me at work, I want to reply normally, but the words just don't come out right.

My voice gets quiet even when just saying 'yes'.
My expression freezes in situations where I should laugh at a joke.
I don't know when to join the conversation, so I stay silent.

I keep thinking about it over and over afterward.

Was that response weird?
Did I seem unpleasant?
What if they distance themselves from me again?

I think, in truth, I just want to talk normally.

Even if I don't necessarily want to be close friends, it would be nice if I could at least have the conversations necessary for work peacefully.

However, when memories of being treated coldly in the past or experiences of being hurt by a casual remark remain, my body braces itself before I even speak.

'What will they think if I say this?'
'What if I get rejected?'
'I don't want to ruin the mood again.'

Such thoughts fill my head in an instant, and my words get stuck.

To those around you, you might just look like a quiet person.
You might look like someone who is a bit bad at communication.

But inside, you feel the tension of being in a small interview every single time.

You put so much energy into every single conversation.

I don't think that is ever just being soft.

At night, you find yourself unconsciously checking work chat notifications over and over.

Even when you get home, it doesn't feel like work is over.

Whether you are in the bath, eating dinner, or in bed, you are thinking about the workplace somewhere in your mind.

Is a chat notification ringing?
Is there a message for me?
Is someone saying something?

Even when nothing has come in, you keep opening the app over and over.

In truth, you don't want to look.
You know that if you look, your peace of mind will be disturbed again.

Even so, you check it, perhaps because you want to feel at ease.

You want to confirm that you aren't being scolded.
You want to confirm that you haven't been left behind.
You want to confirm that you haven't made any mistakes.

In a workplace where interpersonal relationships are difficult, a single notification sound is no longer just a message.

It becomes the sound of judgment.
It becomes a premonition of being blamed.
It becomes something that brings the anxiety of tomorrow.

Even if you turn your smartphone face down, the sensation of notifications ringing in your head remains.

Even on a weekend night, you feel exhausted by anticipating the atmosphere of Monday.

In this way, work relationships follow you outside of the workplace.

That is why I believe that wanting to quit your job because of interpersonal relationships is not just because you dislike being on the clock.

It is painful because your entire life is being slowly eroded by those relationships.

If your heart feels heavy before you even go to work, and you are afraid to even talk to someone, you may be struggling with the distance in your interpersonal relationships more than just simple fatigue.

The gap and comparison in interpersonal relationships that lead to the desire to quit a job

The pain of interpersonal relationships does not only arise when you are strongly attacked by someone. Even when those around you seem to be spending their time normally, you alone feel unable to fit in well. If that feeling continues, you gradually start to think, 'Maybe there is something wrong with me.' Hidden deep behind the desire to quit a job is sometimes a sense of loneliness, as if you are the only one standing in a slightly different place within the workplace.

Feeling like you are the only one who cannot hear the laughter of those around you

You hear laughter somewhere in the office.

You know it is not about you.
It might just be casual conversation.
It might be someone's casual joke.

Even so, the moment you hear that laughter, your heart shrinks a little.

You feel like you are the only one outside the circle.
You feel like you are the only one who cannot enter that atmosphere.
Everyone seems to look more natural and happy when you are not there.

There are times when you feel that way.

If you think about it calmly, the people around you have their own circumstances, and perhaps they are not all close friends.

But when you are in pain, your heart cannot easily remain calm.

Just by seeing someone talking happily with someone else, you confirm your own isolation.
You start looking for reasons why you cannot join them.
You dig up past remarks, wondering if you did something wrong.

When interpersonal relationships become so painful that you want to quit your job, the interpretation that grows within you can sometimes be more painful than the events right in front of you.

More than the laughter itself, it is the feeling that you are not there.

I think that is what quietly wears down your heart.

The moment you feel that your sense of distance is different from a 'normal relationship'

There is a vague 'normal' in the workplace.

Chat a little during breaks.
Go to lunch if invited.
Make light jokes even when busy.
Ask about someone's recent situation naturally.

When I see people who can do those things without any effort, I think they are amazing.

Should I do the same?
Do I have to act more cheerful?
Am I being thought of as keeping too much distance?

I think about things like that.

However, getting too close is exhausting.
On the other hand, staying too far away leads to isolation.

I don't know what the right distance is.

When you can't grasp the right sense of distance in interpersonal relationships, every single action in the workplace feels like a multiple-choice question.

Should I join this small talk?
Is it okay to decline this invitation?
How much should I answer when asked for advice?
Is it okay to be honest with this person?

Things that are natural for others become tasks that I have to think about every single time.

The accumulation of that is quite exhausting.

It might be closer to the feeling that 'it's hard to keep adjusting to the temperature of these interpersonal relationships' rather than 'the job doesn't suit me'.

But it's difficult to put that into words.

That's why, in the end, only the words 'I want to quit my job' remain.

Even though, in reality, there must have been many feelings of discomfort before that.

Comparing yourself, who is enduring, with colleagues who speak freely

A colleague is talking to the boss casually.

They tell a little joke, laugh, and go back to their seat.
Another colleague is able to say that they don't like something when they don't like it.
When they are busy, they properly ask for help.

Seeing that creates a small sense of pain within me.

Why can't I do that?
Why am I the only one enduring so much?
Why is even a casual conversation so scary?

I don't want to compare, but I end up doing it.

In truth, I don't want to blame my colleagues for speaking freely.
It's just that the difference between them and me is dazzling and painful.

I am always reading the room too much.
I am anticipating the other person's mood.
Even when I want to refuse, I smile and accept.
I am swallowing what I want to say.

Beside me, there are people who can speak naturally.

Then, I start to feel like I am the only one who is clumsy, weak, and unsuited for society.

However, I do not believe that people who are easily exhausted by interpersonal relationships simply have low ability.

Rather, you may get tired because you are too aware of changes in the other person's facial expressions or the atmosphere.
You may be unable to express your own words because you think too much about not wanting to hurt the other person.
Sometimes you become too cautious, not because you don't want to be disliked, but because you don't want to break the relationship.

That kindness can sometimes work against you in the workplace, driving you into a corner.

If you are confused by the difference in how you and those around you feel, and are worried about why only you are getting tired, it may be because you haven't quite grasped the right sense of distance in your interpersonal relationships.

Time to accept yourself for wanting to quit your job without blaming yourself

When people think, "I want to quit my job," many first blame themselves. I should be able to work harder. Everyone else is putting up with it. Isn't it weak to want to quit just because of interpersonal relationships? However, the more you keep blaming yourself like that, the more your heart loses its place to escape. You don't have to turn your desire to quit into action immediately. But I don't think you need to deny the fact that those feelings have emerged.

Hiding the self that wants to "run away" and forcing a smile

At the workplace, you act as normally as possible.

You greet others.
You respond to them.
You laugh when you are supposed to laugh.
You complete the work you are asked to do.

But inside your heart, you are thinking, "I want to run away," the whole time.

I want to disappear from this place.
I want to go somewhere where no one can see me.
I wish tomorrow morning would never come.

You make sure no one knows that you are thinking such things.

During lunch break, you take a deep breath in a toilet stall.
You fix your expression in front of the mirror.
Before returning to your seat, you look at your smartphone one more time.

And then, you put on a face as if nothing is wrong again.

This "pretending to be normal" takes more energy than you think.

You cannot say it is painful.
You cannot show that you are suffering.
If you say you want to quit, people might be surprised.
You might be blamed.
You might be asked to stay.

So, you force a smile.

But just because you are smiling does not mean you are okay.

Rather, if you are smiling while feeling like you are about to cry inside, I think you are in a state of pushing yourself quite hard.

Wanting to run away may not be a sign of weakness, but a reaction of your heart saying it does not want to be hurt any further.

You don't have to pretend that voice isn't there.

Thinking over and over at night that you are the only one who is weak

Sometimes, when night falls, you can't stop your thoughts.

Was the way I spoke today strange?
Why did that person act that way?
What should I do if the atmosphere is the same tomorrow?
Am I really just weak for wanting to quit?

Even though I'm in bed, my mind is still at the workplace.

The room is quiet, but my heart is restless.

The feelings I managed to gloss over during the day come rushing out at night.

It's not enough to make me cry.
But there is a constant heaviness deep in my chest.
I want to sleep, but I can't.
I open my smartphone and search for 'want to quit job interpersonal relationships'.

I want someone to tell me, 'That's tough.'
But I'm also afraid of being easily told, 'You should quit.'
I don't want my feelings to be decided for me.

I just want to know what this current pain is.

I think there are nights like that.

When you find yourself thinking that you are the only one who is weak, I want you to remember that the difficulty of interpersonal relationships is hard to see from the outside.

It doesn't show up in numbers like poor physical health.
It isn't recorded like overtime hours.
There is no evidence of being yelled at strongly by someone.

But the feeling of being worn down little by little every day is definitely real.

Just because it's invisible doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

Saving drafts of the desire to quit without being able to tell anyone

I think about discussing my resignation and start writing the message over and over.

A message to my boss.
A LINE message to a friend.
Words to confess to my family.

But I can't finish writing them.

I type 'I want to quit my job' and delete it.
I write 'The interpersonal relationships are tough' and delete it, feeling it's too heavy.
I write 'I might be at my limit' and close it, feeling scared myself.

Only the drafts keep piling up.

The moment I put it into words, I feel like I really have to quit. I feel like if I tell someone, it will become a huge deal. But if I don't say anything, things will just continue as they are.

I waver between those two states.

Worries that you cannot tell anyone gradually become more intense within you.

You blame yourself for not being able to consult anyone. You blame yourself for not being able to make a decision. You blame yourself for deciding to go again tomorrow.

But not being able to say it doesn't mean you aren't serious.

I think it's because it's such a big deal that you can't easily put it into words.

The feeling of wanting to quit your job is connected to everything, from the direction of your life and anxiety about your livelihood to dealing with the aftermath of interpersonal relationships.

That's why you're hesitant. That's why you're scared. That's why the drafts keep piling up.

I think that hesitation, including everything, is your honest state right now.

If you are currently blaming yourself for your weakness and feeling lonely because you can't talk to anyone, that is by no means a problem that belongs only to you. Many people endure things while the boundaries of their interpersonal relationships remain blurred.

Time to look at the feeling of wanting to quit your job from a slightly different perspective

When the feeling of wanting to quit becomes stronger, your mind tends to narrow down to two choices: "continue or quit." Of course, if you've reached your limit, it's important to leave. However, before that, it might be okay to take a little time to look at what you are suffering from. The words "I want to quit" can contain not only the desire to escape from the workplace, but also the wish to not wear yourself down any further.

Realizing that you have been convincing yourself that you "must endure"

When interpersonal relationships are difficult, we sometimes unconsciously think that we "must endure."

Because I'm a working adult. Because everyone else is having a hard time too. Because I shouldn't complain about something like this. Because interpersonal problems exist everywhere.

That is how you tell yourself.

Certainly, there are times when work requires some endurance. You have to deal with people you don't like. You have to spend time in the same space as people you don't get along with.

But there are different types of endurance.

There is endurance where you hold on temporarily, and there is endurance where you erase your own feelings.

Always watching others' reactions and putting your own feelings last.
Swallowing everything you want to say.
Smiling to avoid making waves even when someone does something unpleasant to you.
Continuing to tell yourself "I'm still okay" even when you are near your limit.

That is a form of endurance that slowly distances you from yourself.

When you think "I want to quit," your heart might be saying this.

I don't want to leave myself behind anymore.

Just because you heard that voice doesn't mean you have to quit immediately.

However, I believe that realizing how much you have been enduring is an important starting point for considering your future choices.

The moment you suddenly think that perfect interpersonal relationships do not exist

When workplace relationships are painful, you might wonder if things would go better at the next job.

If it were a place with kinder people.
If it were a company with a calmer atmosphere.
If it were an environment where you could maintain more distance.

It is natural to wish for that.

But at the same time, the phrase "interpersonal relationships exist everywhere you go" might get stuck somewhere in your heart.

That phrase can sometimes corner a person.

If it's the same wherever you go, isn't there no point in quitting?
If I don't change, won't I just repeat the same thing?

Thinking like that, you become unable to move.

It is true that perfect interpersonal relationships may not exist.

Every workplace has compatibility issues.
There are misunderstandings.
There are situations where you have to be careful.

But I don't think that means you have no choice but to keep enduring your current suffering.

Even if there is no perfect place, there might be a place where it is a little easier to breathe than now.
Even if you can't get along with everyone, there might be a distance where you can work without breaking yourself.
Even if interpersonal relationship worries don't drop to zero, there might be an environment where you aren't so paralyzed that you can't move every morning.

I think what is important is not dreaming of an ideal workplace, but knowing what kind of relationships allow you to work without breaking.

Feeling somewhere in your heart that running away is not a bad thing

The word "running away" has a somewhat negative connotation.

It feels like losing.
It feels like giving up halfway.
It feels like abandoning your responsibilities.

That is why, even when you want to quit your job because of interpersonal relationships, you blame yourself, wondering if you are just trying to run away.

But is running away always a bad thing?

You wouldn't blame someone for running away from a place that is on fire.
You wouldn't call it weakness to avoid a dangerous path.
Taking distance from a place where your heart feels like it's breaking is, fundamentally, an act of self-preservation.

Of course, there are times when you might be anxious about quitting on impulse alone.
Things like your livelihood, your next job, and explaining it to those around you.

There are things that need to be considered.

But there is no need to blame yourself for wanting to "run away."

I believe that deep down, that word contains the desire to "be saved."

I want to be able to wake up in the morning with a little more peace of mind.
I want to reclaim my own time after work is done.
I want to escape a life that ends with nothing but worrying about other people's moods.

That is a very natural wish.

Before deciding whether or not to quit, first acknowledge that wish.

"I must have been in so much pain that I wanted to run away."

Just by quietly accepting that, the view you see might change a little.

Feeling a little better by drawing small boundaries starting today

Even if you can't find the answer to whether or not to quit your job right away, you can take small actions to protect yourself starting today. Before making big changes to your environment, try drawing small boundaries. These are not lines to reject others, but lines to ensure your own heart doesn't wear down any further. When interpersonal relationships are painful, those lines tend to become blurred. That is precisely why just being conscious of a little bit of distance can make it easier to breathe.

Try taking a breath in the middle of a conversation

When we are tired of interpersonal relationships, we tend to react immediately to what others say.

I have to reply quickly.
I don't want to be thought of strangely.
I don't want to ruin the atmosphere.

Because of that impatience, we end up saying things we don't mean or taking on things we don't need to take on.

Later on, you end up blaming yourself again.

"Why did I say that back then?"

If you find yourself in such situations often, just taking a breath in the middle of a conversation might make a difference.

You don't have to answer immediately.
It's okay to think for a moment before replying.
It's okay to say, "I'll check and get back to you."
It's okay to say, "Let me think about it for a moment."

Even just a few seconds can give you time to return to your own center.

When you feel like you're being swept up in the other person's pace, take a breath.
When you feel like you're over-analyzing the other person's expression, look at your own feet.
If you're about to laugh it off immediately, delay your words just once.

It's a small thing, but that one breath becomes practice for "choosing your own reaction."

Boundaries can sometimes start not with a grand declaration, but with small pauses like these.

Trying to choose your words in situations where you can't say "NO"

For people who are bad at refusing, saying "NO" itself is very scary.

They might hate me.
They might think I'm cold.
They might think I'm uncooperative.
They might stop relying on me in the future.

Thinking that way, you end up accepting it every time.

However, if you keep accepting everything, small amounts of anger and fatigue accumulate within you.

Even if you know the other person doesn't mean any harm, it becomes painful.
Every time you are asked, you feel like it's always you again.
On the way home, you think over and over that you actually wanted to refuse.

Saying "NO" is not about rejecting the other person.

It is about honestly communicating your own remaining capacity.

For example, you don't have to refuse strongly right away.

"It seems a bit difficult today."
"Is it okay if I do it after I finish my current task?"
"I can't handle this one, but I can do this much."
"I'll check and get back to you."

Even words like these are enough to create a boundary.

The important thing is not to swallow everything.

Before trying to accommodate others, take a moment to look at your own state.

Those who are not used to saying no may feel guilty at first.

However, that guilt may not be proof that you have done something wrong, but rather a sensation that the habit of putting yourself last is being shaken.

It is okay to take it one step at a time.

I think it is fine to practice protecting your own boundaries with words.

Instead of forcing yourself to fit in, write down your feelings in a memo

When interpersonal relationships are difficult, you may lose track of your own feelings.

Are you annoyed?
Are you sad?
Are you angry?
Are you just tired?
Do you want to quit?
Do you want to take a break?

Everything gets mixed up, and it just feels painful.

In such cases, writing it down in a memo before talking to someone else is one way to handle it.

It does not have to be well-written.
It does not have to use correct language.
It does not have to be intended for anyone else to see.

Today, that way of speaking was painful.
I laughed it off again.
I actually wanted to say no.
I did not want to go from the morning.
I want to quit, but I am scared.

Write it exactly as it is.

By writing it down, what was tangled in your head comes out a little bit.

Emotions tend to grow when kept trapped inside your head.
But when you put them into words, you can sometimes view them from a distance.

What were you hurt by?
In which situation did you feel the most distressed?
What have you been enduring?

That will gradually become visible.

The memo is not for gathering evidence to quit.

It is a record to help you understand where your heart is being pushed too hard.

If you keep forcing yourself to fit in with those around you, your own sense of self will fade.

That is precisely why writing helps you regain your sense of self.

I believe that setting small boundaries begins with first noticing your own feelings.

If you are currently struggling because you don't know where your territory begins, practicing drawing small lines might help.

Resetting interpersonal relationships and what lies beyond the desire to quit your job

Deep within the desire to quit your job, there is sometimes a wish to "reset all these interpersonal relationships." You want to make the contact information, the office atmosphere, the awkwardness, and the eyes of others all disappear as if they never existed. It is not unnatural to feel that way. However, while a reset can be a relief, there are parts that may quietly shake you later on. This is because your emotions continue both before and after you quit.

Thinking about a reset repeatedly before deciding to quit

On the train in the morning, I suddenly think.

If I quit this company, I won't have to see those people anymore.
I won't have to sit in that atmosphere.
I won't have to be afraid of those chat notifications.
I won't have to feel lonely amidst that laughter.

When I think that, I can breathe just a little bit.

At the same time, anxiety also arises.

Is it really okay to quit?
What if it's the same at the next workplace?
Won't I develop a habit of running away?
Will I regret it after I quit?

The desire to reset and the fear of resetting.

Both exist.

When you are in so much pain that you want to cut off all your interpersonal relationships, your heart is quite exhausted.

I don't want to explain anymore.
I don't have the energy to try to make them understand.
I don't have the margin to work on repairing the relationship.

I just want to leave.

That feeling sometimes comes from a place near your limit.

Therefore, you don't have to blame yourself for wanting to reset.

However, the stronger that feeling is, the more important it is not to rush your decision.

Quitting is not bad.
There are times when leaving is necessary.

However, if you take a moment to look at "what you want to get away from," your future choices might change.

Do you want to get away from the people themselves?
Do you want to get away from the lack of personal space?
Do you want to get away from an atmosphere where you are constantly being evaluated?
Do you want to get away from a role where you cannot be yourself?

Once you see that, what you want to value in your next workplace will also gradually become clear.

Swaying between the loneliness and anxiety that follow a reset

When you reset your interpersonal relationships, it can feel like a relief at first.

No more checking notifications.
No more reading people's moods.
No more forcing yourself to smile.

It is quiet and light.

However, after a while, other emotions may emerge.

Was this really the right thing to do?
Did I run away again?
I wonder what those people are doing now.
What if the same thing happens at the next place?

Even though you have left, those relationships continue in your heart.

This does not mean that the reset was a failure.

Because cutting off a relationship and processing your feelings do not happen at the same time.

Submitting a resignation letter does not mean everything is over.
Reaching your last day of work does not mean you will forget immediately.
Deleting contact information does not mean your memories are erased as well.

Therefore, it is not strange to feel lonely or anxious after quitting.

In fact, it might be that your tension has finally eased, and your true feelings are coming to the surface.

I believe that what is important after resetting your relationships is not to try too hard to find the next "correct answer" immediately.

Take a little rest.
Process the situations where you were hurt.
Understand what you were actually enduring.
Reflect just a little so that you do not erase yourself in the same way at your next place.

A reset is not an end, but can also be an entrance to reclaiming your relationship with yourself.

Quietly imagining the future brought about by repeated resets

When you find yourself wanting to reset your relationships over and over again, it can sometimes become frightening even to yourself.

I'm doing the same thing again.
I'm wanting to distance myself again.
I'm wanting to end everything again.

Every time it happens, I wonder if I'm just bad at interpersonal relationships.

However, there might be a reason why you keep repeating this.

It's painful when I get too close.
But it's lonely when I get too far away.
I can't say no when I'm relied upon.
But I reach my limit when I'm relied upon too much.
I can't speak my true feelings.
But if I keep enduring, I suddenly want to cut everything off.

Within this oscillation, your own patterns in relationships may be hidden.

The feeling of wanting to reset is not inherently bad.

However, if you can only protect yourself by ending everything every time, knowing smaller ways to protect yourself beforehand might help your future self.

Keep a little distance.
Say no a little.
Write down your true feelings a little.
Consult someone a little.
Rest a little.

Before you break everything, draw a line just a little.

Once you can do that, interpersonal relationships will no longer be just about 'enduring or resetting'.

Of course, there are times when quitting your current job is necessary.

If your mind or body is at its limit, choosing to leave is important.

But to avoid blaming yourself again after that.

'Perhaps I was struggling because I couldn't draw boundaries, to the point where I wanted to reset things over and over.'

Looking at it that way, I think, can be a small act of care for your future self.

If you are currently wanting to reset your relationships repeatedly and feel anxious about the loneliness or regret that lies beyond that, it may be a path of hesitation that everyone walks.

When you want to quit your job due to interpersonal relationships, there is a pain there that cannot be easily dismissed.

I want to quit.
But I'm scared.
It's exhausting to continue.
But I don't want to be thought of as running away.
I want someone to understand.
But I can't explain it well.

All of that might be inside you right now.

I don't think you need to force yourself to be positive.

You don't have to rush to say, "It's okay, it will work out somehow."
You don't have to neatly summarize it as a "chance for growth."
You don't have to take on more responsibility than necessary by saying, "I had my faults too."

First, acknowledge that it was painful.

If you are suffering so much because of interpersonal relationships that you want to quit your job, it may not be because you are weak, but because you have been pushing yourself too hard for a long time.

The answer doesn't have to come today.

Just don't pretend that your current pain doesn't exist.

I think it's okay to start by setting your emotions aside without blaming yourself, so that you can choose a way of working or a sense of distance that makes it a little easier for you to breathe.

If you are currently struggling and unable to sort out your feelings about wanting to quit your job or the pain of your interpersonal relationships, why not take a deeper look at your way of working before forcing yourself to come up with an answer? I have prepared a free note that considers redesigning your way of working while staying close to your current feelings. It is recommended for those who want to find their next step at their own pace without rushing.

When interpersonal relationships are so painful that you want to quit your job, you may feel like "the only option is for me to disappear." But in reality, before choosing between quitting or enduring, there may still be room to draw a line to protect yourself. To help you avoid being too swayed by others at work, I am quietly leaving this here: "Interpersonal relationships are tough because you might be too kind—a 'boundary-setting lesson' to stop trying only by enduring."