[Episode 1] The story of how I dedicated 10 years, from age 22 to 32, to an innocent scumbag.
The night he laughed and suggested we 'move into a nursing home together' after I had devoted 10 years to him, I cut my losses.
This article is a record of how I discarded my emotions and turned the tables using logic.
To you, who are currently in a tunnel with no exit.
I am handing you the weapons to turn my 10 years into your 3 months.
I didn't hate the smell of cigarettes left in the room.
Winston Purple.
The sweet scent of Calvin Klein 'Eternity' that remained on the pillow after he left.
That was my entire twenties.
Nice to meet you, my name is Saki.
For 10 years, from age 22 to 32, I was the 'convenient woman' for my boyfriend, who was the same age as me.
I was never even given a spare key.
Christmas and birthdays were always brushed off with 'work'.
He would come to my place, but he wouldn't even tell me where he lived.
Even so, I believed his words that I was 'the best one' and kept waiting.
I thought that since I had devoted so much to him, he would surely choose me someday.
But that expectation was shattered into pieces at the yakitori restaurant 'Banban' in Shinjuku Kabukicho.
With a face flushed from highballs, he stuffed his mouth with yakitori and said this.
'Hey, if we're still single when we turn 40, let's move into a nursing home together (lol).'
At that moment, something inside me snapped.
I couldn't even force a polite smile.
Ah, to this person, I was just a tool to enjoy the "present" with, not a partner to share a "future" with.
To him, those 10 years were nothing more than a way to kill time.
That night, while crying, I didn't look for relationship advice, but instead scoured books on behavioral economics.
And I arrived at one cruel truth.
The reason I couldn't break up with him wasn't because I loved him.
It was just that I was afraid of wasting those 10 years.
It's the same psychology as someone who keeps throwing money into a losing gamble, thinking, 'I should be able to win it back if I just keep going a little longer.' I was just continuing to pour the asset that is my life into the bad debt that was him.
From there, I moved quickly.
I discarded my emotions and acted based on logic.
I cut off all contact with him, caused my value in his eyes to skyrocket, and dangled the prospect of a cut-loss before him.
What was the result?
Three months after that night.
I, who had been his 'convenient woman,' extracted a marriage proposal from him and we got married.
How I am now domesticating him, now that he is my husband, is a story for another time.
In this note, I will write about the specific strategies I executed during those 'three blank months'.
The idea that 'if you have love, it will get through' is a lie.
The idea that 'if you wait, you will be rewarded' is a fantasy.
What is necessary is not mind games, but the resolve for a cut-loss and the logic to move the other person.
To you, who like my past self, are crying in a tunnel with no exit.
Let's stop dating based on emotions.
From now on, we will use our heads to win.
Saki
To those who read this article and empathized with me, saying 'That must have been hard,' thank you.
However, if you are currently crying in a similar situation, this is no time to be feeling sorry for me.
Next, it is your turn. I threw away 10 years, but you will end it in 3 months. I am leaving the [weapon] for that purpose right here.
[From Saki]
*This article contains fictional elements based on a true story.
▼ Obtain the next 'weapon' (Episode 2)
▼ Make up your mind and read it all at once (Magazine)
Even in this moment of hesitation, you are throwing your greatest asset, your 'youth,' down the drain.
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