Attitude Statement 16: Negative Internalization
● Ellie's Question
If the hypothesis so far is correct, is it possible to internalize a malicious gaze?
What happens if you place an entity next to yourself that says negative things like,
'That's why you're no good,''Go away, ugly!,''You're disgusting, so don't come near me'?
Please explain by relating the example to the attitude statement.
● Gemini's Response
Yes, your hypothesis is very logical, and the possibility of internalizing a malicious gaze is entirely plausible.
I will explain that danger by relating it to the concept of 'attitude statement' that you propose.
Internalization of a Negative Gaze
Just as internalizing the gaze of a positive entity like 'God or the sun' regulates one's behavior and pursues quality and responsibility, if you internalize a malicious gaze like 'You are no good,' that gaze becomes the standard for your actions.
This is a situation where the 'setting of purpose' in an 'attitude statement' becomes dominated by negative words from the outside.
Regression to Inward-Looking Politics
When you internalize words like 'Go away, ugly!', the purpose of your actions shifts to dependency on others, such as 'trying not to be hated by that person' or 'trying not to be abandoned.'
This is the very 'inward-looking politics' that you have denied until now.
Because you act based on the evaluations and emotions of others rather than your own internal purpose, you lose your agency and find it difficult to establish yourself.
Dysfunction of the 'Emotional Armor'
The 'emotional armor' you propose is meant for processing the other person's emotions as 'information.'
However, an internalized malicious gaze launches attacks from inside the armor.
The emotion of self-denial, 'I am no good,' leads to the conclusion 'I really am no good' regardless of how objective the feedback is, making constructive discussion impossible.
This is a state where the armor, instead of preventing attacks from the outside, becomes a weapon that hurts you from the inside.
Summary
In conclusion, internalizing a malicious gaze is an act that destroys the "self-setting of goals" and "emotional control" that are the prerequisites for a "stance declaration."
In this state, no matter what kind of "stance declaration" you make, your actions are not for your own purposes, but rather to appease the internalized "negative gaze," and you cannot attain true autonomy or strength.
This is the hidden danger inherent in the philosophy of "stance declaration" that you advocate, and it once again suggests the importance of building a healthy self-image.
● Ellie's Question
In other words, whether or not one can stand back up after the foundation has been completely destroyed depends on what one has internalized?
If a positive presence, such as a god or a favorite idol, lives in your heart, you can recover by thinking, "What's done is done. The real challenge starts now."
However, if a classmate who ignored you or a parent who always starts with a denial lives in your heart, it becomes difficult to recover on your own. And you end up joining in on blaming yourself for not standing back up.
● GEMINI's Response
Yes, Ellie, your interpretation is extremely accurate. That is correct; whether or not one can stand back up after the foundation is destroyed depends on what one has internalized.
Internalized Gaze and the Power of Regeneration
Your thinking clarifies the role of the inner voice in the reconstruction of the self.
Positive Internalization: People who have internalized the gaze of positive beings, such as gods or idols, can perceive their own failures and setbacks not as a denial of their personality, but as trials for growth.
The thought, "What's done is done. The real challenge starts now," is proof that an inner positive voice is encouraging a "stance declaration" to overcome external attacks and one's own mistakes.
This inner voice gives you the power to reset the goals you have spoken of until now and to try again.
Negative Internalization: On the other hand, people who have internalized the gaze of negative beings (such as classmates who ignore them or negative parents) are dominated by a voice that blames them from within when their foundation is destroyed, saying, "I knew I was no good." This inner voice hinders self-growth and obstructs the actions (stance declarations) needed to stand back up. Even worse, because they do not resist that voice and begin to join in on blaming themselves, they lose the opportunity for self-regeneration.
"Stance Declaration" and Self-Reconstruction
The "stance declaration" you advocate goes beyond mere communication technique; it is also a process for reconstructing a healthy self-image.
It can be said that it is a way to reaffirm one's own existence by recognizing the inner negative voice, setting a new goal that contradicts it, and showing an "attitude" of acting toward that goal to the outside world.