The brain believes 'it's impossible anyway.' The power of 'self-talk' to change words before emotions
"It's impossible anyway."
"It's not for me."
Even if you don't say it out loud,
people talk to themselves in their heads
all day long.
This internal dialogue
is called "self-talk."
In fact, these whispers
influence your emotions and actions.
Words come first, emotions follow
Negative words
bring negative emotions with them.
When you say "it's impossible," you feel like it's impossible, and your actions stop.
The order is always words first, then emotions.
It is not the other way around.
The brain has a tendency
to believe words it hears repeatedly.
Every time you say "I don't have time" or "I have no talent,"
the brain accepts it as fact.
Therefore, if you change the words you use,
you can retrain your brain little by little.
Shingo Kunieda, who kept saying "I am the strongest"
Wheelchair tennis player Shingo Kunieda,
as part of his mental training,
kept saying "I am the strongest" in front of the mirror every day.
He reportedly even stuck these words onto his racket.
He wasn't the strongest from the beginning.
He didn't say it because he was strong,
he became strong because he kept saying it.
The results are proven by history.
Gold medals at the Paralympics
Retiring while still ranked number one in the world
Receiving the People's Honor Award
Say "I will do it" instead of "I have to do it"
So, what kind of words should you change to?
First, stop saying "I have to."
Words of obligation make your feelings heavy.
"I have to" is like a quota.
Instead, declare 'I will do it'.
At Study Link, every night before starting 25 minutes of study, we have students declare 'what they are going to do now.'
At this time, I want you to not only type the words but also say them firmly in your heart.
'I will do my math workbook now. I will finish it.'
And, break your words down into concrete steps.
Instead of 'I'll do my best,' say
'I will study math for one hour today.'
Pick up small wins by putting them into words
One more thing,
tell yourself what you have accomplished.
Memorized 10 vocabulary words
Sat at the desk even though I was sleepy
Was able to participate for at least 25 minutes
These are all worthy wins.
Pick them up by saying, 'I won today too.'
That accumulation
cultivates the feeling that 'I can do it.'
If you are embarrassed to say it out loud,
writing it in a notebook is fine too.
Write down what you want to achieve, such as,
'I will reach a deviation score of 60 by this time next year.'
To parents
You can increase positive self-talk at home as well.
Please try to put the small steps your child has achieved into words,
by saying things like, 'You were able to sit at your desk today too.'
Words delivered from the outside
will eventually become the child's own self-talk.
If you re-choose the words you use for yourself,
your future days will definitely change.
Tonight, before you sit at your desk,
please try to say it firmly in your heart.
'I will do it now. I will finish it.'
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