The absurdity of victims being turned into perpetrators before they know it

"That's a case of both parties being at fault."
Have you ever had the school tell you that, even though you were the one reporting the harm?
Even though you were unilaterally hurt, for some reason, it's dismissed as something both sides are responsible for.
I believe there is no phrase that corners a victim more than this one.

What is even more painful is that if you continue to report the facts,
"Are you being paranoid?"
is what you get told.
So, what exactly is paranoid about it?

When you collect evidence and submit it,
"We will look into it,"
they say, and a long time passes.
After being made to wait for weeks or months, when you present the evidence again,
this time they say, "Since so much time has passed, we can no longer tell."

—Then why didn't they check it immediately back then?
Why did they make you wait?

As this exchange is repeated, the victim becomes exhausted.
The strength to explain, the energy to be angry, and the courage to speak out are all whittled away.
And in the end,
"If I say anything more, I'll be seen as a difficult person."
"It's better not to say anything anymore."
They are made to think that way.

The organization known as the school
prioritizes "convenience" over facts,
blurs responsibility, and uses time as an ally to let the problem fade away.

As a result, the victim is framed as the perpetrator,
the person telling the truth becomes a "troublesome existence,"
and the child who truly needs to be protected is left behind.

This is by no means paranoia.
It is a structural problem.

As long as schools do not change this stance,
the same thing will likely be repeated over and over again.
That is precisely why I believe we must continue to raise our voices.