[Attraction] When XXX is strong, it manifests

This is Spiritual Edase.

Some people might think I'm
full of hot air and
be suspicious of me, but

I actually have
confidence in 'attraction'.

I have attracted things in the past.
And I will continue to attract them in the future.

You see,
I have acquired the 'sense of attraction'
as a visceral experience.

Let me talk about that this time.

The secret to attraction is 'sense of presence'

The secret to attraction is
frankly
'sense of presence'.

There are so-called

famous phrases in the world of self-help, like
'the law of attraction' or 'thoughts become reality',

but I personally
am convinced that 'the law of attraction' definitely exists,

and I have touched upon it in past articles.
I am convinced that 'the law of attraction' definitely exists,

I have touched upon it in past articles.

How one can describe
'the law of attraction'
probably depends on each person's

level of experience and realization,

but what is easy for me to understand is
how much of a realistic image I can hold,

and that is what I call 'sense of presence'.

How can one have a 'sense of presence'?

This is
the answer to attracting the future you want.

When the sense of presence is strong, you attract it

There are things you have manifested yourself up until now, or
(even if you weren't conscious of it)
realities you ended up manifesting, aren't there?

The essence of such cases is that,

somewhere in the past, you must have had
a "sense of presence" strong enough
to manifest it.

For example,
yesterday, I wrote an article like this.

To summarize it in one word,

ideal parents have
extremely high psychological safety
is the topic, and

as someone who has experienced over 20 years in the field of education,
for me, this is avery strong "sense of presence"feeling.

Of course,
there are all kinds of parents, each unique in their own way, but

as a common denominator,

the parents themselves

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・Affirm themselves as they are
・Have stronger elements of "acknowledging/accepting" than "anxiety/fear"
・Failure is okay, mistakes are okay
・Can enjoy things not going as planned
・Have emotional room (=humor)
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tend to have these traits.

If I were to put it into words,
those are the words, but

within me,
there is an even stronger "sense of presence",

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The atmosphere when talking is like this.
The smile is like this.
The back-and-forth when conversing is like this, right?
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and so on,
I also have an inexpressible "feeling"
as a lived experience.

The mechanism by which negative images manifest

Conversely,

even if you have a lot of love for your child
and intend to raise them with care,

somewhere in a corner of your heart,
maybe this child is no good,
maybe they will hit a dead end in the future,

Rather, let's assume that at the root of the parent's own heart, there is an image like
As a parent, I have many shortcomings
.

When you are living in a "sense of reality" where you can only see your child or yourself from that perspective,

even with your own child,
you will doubt them at every opportunity.

That doubt is so real to the person themselves that,

even if it's something trivial like not doing homework or not organizing their bag,

you end up taking it out of proportion

and start imagining things like, "This child's future is going to be very bleak."

Everyone has moments when they are feeling unwell or down, and those doubts and distrust cross their mind, right? (I have them too)

However, if that realistic image sticks and won't go away, the result is that

it manifests as that kind of behavior in reality.

Instead of just asking normally, "What did you do at school today?", you might ask in an accusatory way.

Or, it might show on your face,

and if that continues, the child also unconsciously accumulates the feeling that "(My parent) doesn't believe in me at all,"

and the child themselves begins to vividly imagine the parent's thought that "maybe this child is no good," and they (dutifully) reproduce it in reality...

This is scary, but it is
a very common occurrence...

As you can see,

a "sense of reality" attracts reality.

"Commit" to the result!

Let me explain using another easy-to-understand term. The familiar "commit" from RIZAP!

Many people interpret "commit" as "a promise to oneself," "having the feeling of not giving up until the end," or "a constraint," but

this also makes sense if you re-interpret it as
"Commit = Sense of Reality"
.

However, a point to note is that
"commitment" is not something that involves being tense,
that is.

It is a different dimension from so-called willpower or grit theories.

Being natural is the essence of "commitment", and

people who succeed or
people who can achieve their goals
have a very strong "commitment",

it is not unnatural,
and their characteristic is being
true to themselves and natural.

To outsiders, it looks like they are making an effort, but
they themselves do not think of it as effort.
That is because they are "committed".

The "sense of presence" of the goal is so strong that
it is impossible for them not to walk that path,

their everyday words and actions
are all heading toward the goal.

That is synonymous with having a high sense of presence
regarding the goal at an unconscious level.

Summary

When I was a teacher,
I used to ask parents whom I admired for being good at raising children
what their secret was.

The answer phrase was usually

However,

you must not take these words at face value.

As I have written so far,

ideal parents are

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・Affirming their true selves
・Having stronger elements of "acknowledging/accepting" than "anxiety/fear"
・Failure is okay, mistakes are okay
・Able to enjoy things not going as planned
・Having peace of mind (= humor)
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They met the above conditions

without being tense,
and were easygoingly "committed",

and the "sense of presence"
of an image where children grow up healthy
with very high psychological safety

was
(unconsciously)high!

I want to keep my antenna tuned to the
"feelings" lurking in the depths of words.

Thank you
for reading until the end.

I would be happy if this could be of even a little
help to you who read it.

#66-Day Writing Challenge Day 34 of participation.

[Postscript 1] I am the same person as "Dai @ Supporter for First-Year Teachers."

In principle, I post about education three times a week.
[Postscript 2]
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[Postscript 3]
By the way, I have published a Kindle book!
I would be happy if you could read this as well.