Shut Up! Self-Talk for When You're Feeling Weak or Anxious
I'm Edase, a high school teacher.
I mainly share content about
education, psychology, communication, self-improvement, and
daily insights.
The other day, I made
"Kashiwa Udon" with my two daughters.
"increase my cooking repertoire" by the end of February.
During our family
camping trip to Kyushu (8 days, 7 nights) last summer,
my daughters were moved by the "Kashiwa Udon" we ate in Fukuoka.
To recreate that taste,
I looked up a recipe online and decided to give it a try.
Recreating the excitement of eating out
at the family dinner table
is always exciting.
Whether at work or at home,
I want to cherish
the accumulation of small moments of joy.
I hope this article
will also serve as a seed of insight for those who read it,
and become a trigger to help lighten your heart.
I hope you'll stay with me until the end.
When you can't focus on what you need to do.
Anxieties, worries,
and emotions you can't quite put into words
get mixed up,
and sometimes your head just feels like a mess, right?
At times like that,
I have some self-talk that I've been waiting to use
to speak to myself.
It is,
Shut up!!
That's it.
The reason you can't focus on what you need to do isn't because you have too many worries,
but because
you are concentrating your energy
on those worries.
It's because you aren't directing the energy needed for the tasks at hand.
If you truly considered
solving your worries
to be the most important thing
you needed to do,
you wouldn't be saying things like
you can't focus on your work
because of your worries.
Or rather,
worries never really disappear.
Once one disappears,
the next worry is born.
Try to get rid of worries,
want to get rid of worries
Thinking that way is fundamentally
wrong as a concept, and
it could be said that the driving force behind our actions
is born from the fact that we have worries.
In other words, whether you let your worries
act as a brake on your actions or
as an accelerator for your actions
depends entirely on how we perceive them.
When a small anxiety arises,
Shut up!
Let's blow it away for a moment with that.
And then,
What should I do about that anxiety?
Think of it as a chance to consider that.Let's think that way.
If you try it and
your anxiety fades even a little, it's a huge, huge success!
If you say, 'I don't have any worries!'
then that might just mean you haven't noticed your worries,
or you are just pretending not to see them.
The president of my previous workplace (a cram school)
used to say this often.
If you don't have any worries, you won't be able to sleep.
When that happens,
it's a sign that something bad is about to happen.
It's precisely when you have many worries
that you can sleep soundly.
Because you can think,
'I have plenty to do tomorrow, too.'
With just a small change in mindset,
the world changes,
I introduced this because it was an impressive quote
as one example of that.
Thank you
for reading until the end.
I would be happy if this was
even a little bit helpful to you, the reader.