[INFJ] The Essay Genius, INFP (Mediator)
Writing styles differ from person to person. But I actually think that is a strange thing. What is strange is that even though everyone has different personalities, there are still distinct types of writing. So, I have been secretly collecting writing samples for each of the 16 personality types, hoping to find some commonalities. Since writing is a flow of thought, I believe that characteristics specific to each type will definitely emerge. Paradoxically, this means that one could diagnose a type based on their writing... but that is a topic for another article.
In this article, I would like to look at the INFP type, which provided many reference samples for this project, and examine them through their writing.
INFP (Mediator) Writing / INFP as seen by an INFJ (Advocate)
This is just a discussion of characteristics, and my own hypothesis, so I will start by stating that. Below, I would like to imitate an INFP-style of writing to describe the "INFP as seen by an INFJ."
↓INFP Imitation Writing (INFP as seen by an INFJ)↓
When I look at the type descriptions, I think, 'Hmm, yeah, we are similar.' But when I actually meet an INFP, I think, 'Oh.' They express their emotions quite a bit. No, not just 'quite a bit,' but a lot.
In the case of an INFJ, well, even if something unpleasant happens, I don't show it on my face or in my attitude (sorry if I haven't been able to hide it well).
But INFPs are different; it shows on their face immediately.
And yet, they would never say things like 'I want to go there!' or 'Why would you say that!' out loud...
From an INFJ's perspective (and I'm one to talk), that kind of behavior doesn't feel very good. I feel the pressure of their 'you should know without me saying it' aura, and it just makes me go, 'Ugh.'
Well, I guess INFJs are the same in the end, though.
↑INFP Imitation Writing (INFP as seen by an INFJ)↑
That is how it would look in an essay-style, verbose format. Doesn't it feel like the flow of emotion itself is being carried in the writing, which is completely different from an INFJ's writing? The nuance differs between men and women, but generally, this is the impression I get from INFP writing. The imitation above was written by extracting the characteristics of a female INFP.
And another characteristic of INFPs, as you can see from their writing, is that they are far more 'self-centered' than the impression they give in person. They might be the number one type when it comes to spewing venom. INFJs have a strong 'ideology' rather than a strong 'self,' but INFPs have a strong 'self.' However, because they dislike conflict, they never face you head-on to fight using that 'self.'
How much do you all accept?
INFPs take an attitude of acceptance no matter what is said to them, no matter what emotions are thrown at them, or even if it goes against their will. It feels less like they are listening with their ears and more like they are absorbing it with their emotions. They offer vague nods with a gentle look in their eyes, saying, 'Hmm, hmm.' And since they don't like making decisions, when asked, they give answers like, 'I wonder...' It doesn't come across as being a people-pleaser, but rather as if they are truly being swept along. Are you okay with being swept along like that? Doesn't it bother you? That is what I, as an INFJ, think. Even so, occasionally (I have no idea where the switch is), they become emotional, which I think surprises everyone quite a bit.
This balance of acceptance and emotion is so quintessentially INFP. It is not the 'I don't care' feeling of other types that feels like pushing against a curtain; when you are facing an INFP, there is a definite sense of engagement. That is why one's heart is tempted to try and find out what lies beneath. This is likely what leads to the INFP's ability to draw people into their orbit.
The Essay Genius
As I wrote a little above, INFJs are sensitive to the INFP's 'self,' so I actually feel 'discomfort' in INFP writing. However, I don't want INFPs to misunderstand here: that 'discomfort' contains a good deal of jealousy. This is because writing that carries the emotions of an INFP is good at creating a community. So, for example, whether it's on Note or other blog media, if you compare INFJs and INFPs, there is a world of difference in the number of readers, comments, and reactions. INFP writing is read overwhelmingly more. And I myself, while thinking, 'I hate this, I hate this,' end up reading every bit of the INFP's writing. It is truly frustrating, but it can't be helped. Sometimes I even leave a comment. From an INFJ's perspective, the content is not organized at all, but that is just the INFJ's value system of how writing should be, and the reason INFPs write is likely different from INFJs to begin with.
In short, what are the good points of an INFP?
This is simply their ability to create a community. From an INFJ's perspective, it is truly enviable, but due to the aforementioned 'drawing people in' quality and various other INFP-like abilities, various friends and allies (or followers) gather around them. While ENFJs (Protagonists) can actively gather friends, the INFP's gathering of friends is passive. However, they are truly skilled and active at creating the boxes and communities that allow for that passive gathering of friends. And surely, the individuals themselves may not realize it (or perhaps it's not on their radar?), but there are quite a few people who are saved by the community the INFP has created. INFPs are probably not actually interested in the community they created themselves, but this is definitely, fully, useful to others. This is something that, at the very least, an INFJ cannot do. INFPs are far better than INFJs at managing these kinds of communities and can handle the fine details.
Conversely, what are the drawbacks?
Human relationships. The 'drawing people in' quality is quite serious, so I think INFPs should be aware of that danger. INFPs are the ones who create the community, but it is often the case that they are also the ones who destroy it through the rupture of human relationships. Also, since they are likely not good at making definitive decisions, when such things are necessary, it would be better to leave that responsibility to someone else. There are likely allies around the INFP who would be happy to take that on.
Finally
After reading this article, some of you might have thought, 'I don't know if they are praising or criticizing.' That is natural, and as I wrote in this article, there is a part of me that is jealous of INFPs. I don't know if INFPs are aware of it, but the loneliness of an INFJ is truly lonely. So, to write frankly, I envy INFPs who can keep increasing their allies, and naturally, that envy also leads to resentment. Because of their beliefs, INFJs cannot perform the social maneuvers that INFPs can do so naturally.
INFJs can only look at the community you have created and think, 'That's nice,' or knock softly on the door, asking, 'Can I come in?'
