The urge to chop off your hair is a sign that your heart has reached its limit
[Hybrid Theory - New Type Mode Runaway]⚠️
Working as a hairdresser,
I sometimes have customers like this come in.
“That’s enough, please chop it all off.”
“I want to dye it a flashy color.”
“I want to get a bunch of piercings all at once.”
The other day, a woman in her 20s came to the salon.
She had very elegant and neat long hair,
but she asked, “Would it be weird if I chopped it all off and added bright red highlights?”
In her expression,
there was something desperate,
different from just a simple change of image.
I had always wondered about this.
Why do people suddenly want to “destroy their appearance”?
Of course, when I get an order, I do my best to meet their wishes, but when I hear about their workplace background... wait, is that really okay?
Sometimes, after listening carefully, it turns into a life counseling session 🤔
In the end, after hearing their stories...
🌀 The boyfriend they live with is unreliable, so they have to be the strong one!
🌀 They just started a job, but the quotas are strict and the days are tense.
🌀 Their parents back home are nagging, and it’s hard to deal with them.
They were carrying various worries.
This customer’s MBTI was apparently ISFP-T (Adventurer), so she was naturally a New Type temperament.
However, when she took the MBTI test that day, she was an ISTJ-T (Logistician), a cautious type.
It was clearly an impossible shift from New Type to Legacy.
※ This is a true story.
Since creating the Hybrid Theory,
I have finally been able to put the reason into words.
■ The explosion that occurs when a New Type (N) is “crushed to the limit”
Everyone has
an instinctive New Type (N) within them—
“freedom,” “emotion,” “true feelings,” and “space.”
But,
when you are in an environment where the Legacy (L) is too strong,
this N gets compressed more and more.
Be patient
Behave properly
Don’t fail
Read the room
Don't be a burden
When this kind of "pressure to be correct" piles up,
N can no longer breathe.
For example, it would be nice if you could vent in your daily life.
Chatting with friends,
playing with pets,
going out for drinks and karaoke to have fun,
enjoying games and entertainment to your heart's content,
taking a short trip to see different scenery
—you want to let off steam with things like these, don't you?
However, even that is not allowed.
You have no free time, you are tied down in both work and your private life, and you have no room to do anything freely...
And that goes on every day, every week, for months...
And then one day,
it explodes like a dam breaking.
■ "Soft explosions" that appear in daily life
Even if we call it an explosion,
it first appears as a small sign.
Wanting to chop off your hair
Wanting to get flashy highlights
Wanting to get a bunch of piercings all at once
Suddenly wanting to change your style of dress
This is
a survival instinct to prevent suffocation on the inside
by destroying the "symbol" that is your outward appearance.
As a hairdresser,
I have witnessed this moment many times.
It is not a desire to "change," but
a cry that says, "If I don't break something, it will be painful."
■ If ignored for too long, the target shifts from "hair" to "the body"
If this cry from N is ignored for a long time,
changing your outward appearance will no longer be enough.
Hurting yourself
Excessive drinking
Overdosing
Destructive behavior
These behaviors are not "bad things," but
occur as a "last resort to feel freedom (N)."
This is not something to be blamed,
but a "forced shutdown" due to a malfunction in the mode.
This is not something to be blamed,
but a "forced shutdown" due to a malfunction in the mode.
■ A "makeover" at the hair salon is actually a "safe way to blow off steam"
I always thought the urge to "chop it all off" was
just a change of pace.
But now I know better.
That is a "safe explosion" before the N mode reaches its limit.
Cutting your hair
Changing the color
Redefining your appearance
These are much healthier ways to blow off steam than hurting your body.
The hair salon is also a "buffer zone" that prevents the N mode from running wild.
■ When the hybrid (H) is missing, people break down
Normally, when L is too strong, you mix in 20% N, and if N is about to run wild, you mix in 20% L.
This "adjustment valve" is the hybrid (H).
But if this H is not developed,
people swing to one extreme.
And it manifests in the form of an inward explosion (self-destruction).
💡 So, how do you cultivate H-mode?
For example:
∙ Look out the window for just 5 minutes during work
∙ Create one 'do-nothing day' per week
∙ Count to 10 when your emotions run high
Small things like these are enough.
Before N explodes, vent the pressure little by little. This is how you cultivate H-mode.
■ Conclusion
The urge to 'chop it all off' is
not just a whim.
It is a sign that
the suppressed N-mode is
screaming, 'I've reached my limit.'
If you,
or someone around you,
suddenly wants to change their appearance—
It might be
the 'final SOS to keep from breaking down.'
A makeover at the salon is
a small hybrid step
to acknowledge that SOS.
Finally
Now, the question is, will this problem really be solved by chopping it all off?
When this urge appears, it might be a sign that you are pushing yourself a bit too hard.
Is your current pace really necessary? Can this lifestyle be sustained for a long time?
It might be time to question your way of life.
Rather than cutting your hair or forcing a change in your style,
consult someone you trust. Re-evaluate your pace of life or your relationships.
It might be a chance to change direction.
And if you have realized this, it is okay not to blame yourself.
From the moment you realize it, your life has already begun to change.
※ Supplementary note
While this does not apply to everyone, in psychology, such changes are sometimes treated as 'signs that the state of the mind has manifested.'
In the second part,
we will cover the opposite direction—
'When Legacy (L) runs wild'
and what happens.
See you then 👋
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