The reason I started struggling with clothes was because my lifestyle had changed

The reason I started struggling with clothes was not because I had changed, but because my lifestyle had changed.


It took me a little while to realize that.


One day, I ran into an acquaintance while I was out.
Well-groomed hair, beautiful makeup.
Fashion without a hint of hesitation.



Compared to that, I was...
Wearing clothes I'd just thrown on, with my usual outerwear.


A feeling of embarrassment took over.


I wondered if this is how the gap between stylish people and those who aren't grows...
I thought vaguely.

“I really can't go on like this.”


Thinking that, I had my husband watch the kids, and
I went out to buy clothes alone for the first time in a while.


But,
even when I tried on things I thought looked nice, they didn't feel right.
I couldn't even tell if they suited me or not.


It had been so long that
I didn't even know what suited me,
or even what I wanted to wear.


In the end, I went home without buying anything.



“What did you go out for?”


At my husband's words,
I realized that I was the one most disappointed.

Personally, I thought I had done my homework by watching YouTube videos that could serve as examples and scouting out shops.

“Shall we go together next time?”
he said, but I was so tired from choosing that I couldn't bring myself to go again.



I have always taken a long time to buy clothes.
Even if I think something is nice,
I can't decide without trying it on.
I often annoy people when I go with them.


The part of me that wants to take the easy way out whispers.

In winter, if I just wear my outerwear,
you can't see what's underneath anyway.
I'll think about it again when spring comes...

It's not that I don't have clothes at home.
It was just that I had become unable to choose new clothes.
I thought about it later.



The reason I can't choose clothes
isn't because I've lost my sense of style.


It's just that since my environment changed,

I haven't practiced choosing.
Realizing that,

I decided to try changing my perspective a little.

◯ Don't struggle alone.

Judging your current self
on your own is harder than you'd imagine.

Try telling the shop staff,
“I'm looking for something easy to wear at my current age.”
Go with someone you trust,
and ask them, “How does this look?”

Just by having someone else's perspective,
what suits you and what doesn't becomes clear.




◯ It's time to graduate from “because it's cheap.”

In the end,
it's often because you can't wear them for long.

They fray easily.
They pill.
They follow trends too closely, so you won't wear them next year.

The hesitation just grows again.

The points to look at
are the fabric and shape, rather than the price.
With my current body type,
whether it's comfortable when standing or sitting.
Don't follow trends too much.
Make it a standard that you,
at your current age, can wear comfortably.




◯ Don't try to get everything at once.

Because it's easier to keep up if you get used to it little by little in your daily life.

Just a top today.
Shoes next time.
That's enough.

“I feel at ease when I wear this.”
Find one piece like that.

Using that as a standard,
it's fine to increase your wardrobe little by little.





In a busy daily life,
perfect fashion isn't necessary.


Fitting into your current lifestyle.
When you look in the mirror,
feeling even a little bit better.

I think that's enough.


As for me now,
・I want to value cleanliness
・and having a touch of femininity somewhere.
Don't rush, don't compare too much,


just keep looking for things that suit the current you.
Next time I go to buy clothes,



I hope I can choose them just a little bit more easily
than I did this time.