It sounds fishy, but I was subconsciously causing things to happen to confirm that I was a failure

I'm going to tell you something that sounds fishy (lol). / In the world of entrepreneurship and self-improvement, whose responsibility is it that things don't change?

In the world of self-improvement, I hear people badmouthing entrepreneurship schools and communities.

Yes, I myself have been part of a community that was extremely unpleasant, even if only for a short time, and there were days when I was angry. (lol)

It's not that you are a failure!

I want to change, but I can't! is a phrase I hear often. In the first place, you might be trying to compete in areas where there is no need to change, or you are just arbitrarily getting excited and suggesting to yourself that you can do it.

There is a certain number of people for whom entrepreneurship is not a good fit to begin with.
There are also people for whom working as a part-timer or company employee is a better fit.
It is natural that a certain number of people are doing entrepreneurship to confirm the benefits of being a company employee or part-timer (such as being able to join social insurance).

Perhaps, you just want to confirm that you are a failure and feel relieved!

You intentionally do something and fail in order to confirm that you are a failure.
And by saying, See, I really am a failure..., you are actually feeling relieved deep down.

By doing so, you also get an excuse that says, I tried once and failed, so... I've had enough...

If you accidentally succeed temporarily, you will become even more unstable, so you fail to protect yourself in order to avoid that instability.

In the end, you will change when you can naturally think, I am loved even if I am a failure.

I think there are times when you go into debt or jump into troublesome human relationships to realize this negative spiral.

In my case, I think there was a part of me that wanted to confirm, See, it's better to do things the way you want to do them alone, by participating in an unpleasant community.

It is exactly as the saying goes, I went around in a circle after failing and trying various things.
At such times, I think your family and friends, who were watching you with bated breath while you were spending money and panicking, will be relieved and welcome you back.

Basically, I think you will settle on, I am loved even if I am a failure!
When you realize that you were convinced that you wouldn't be loved unless you did something, you will often find that you have changed by thinking, Come to think of it...

I think you have changed more than when you were indignant at being pointed out various things by others.

I used to be bad at these kinds of conversations because I felt like I was being blamed.Recently, I've come to think, Even if I fail, it doesn't change the fact that I am me, so I quite like this kind of topic.

Recently, I've come to think, Even if I fail, it doesn't change the fact that I am me, so I quite like this kind of topic.

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