How to Deal with Days When You Find Yourself Comparing

To start with the conclusion, on days when you find yourself comparing, it does not mean you are weak.
In fact, the more seriously you live your life, the easier it is to compare yourself to others.

When you look at social media and
catch a glimpse of someone's achievements or their seemingly fun times,
"What am I doing with my life?"
you might feel your spirits sink.

On days like that,
I believe you don't have to force yourself to be positive.

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Comparing just means your focus is directed outward

When people feel anxious, they look around.
This is because they are trying to confirm their own position.

The act of comparing is also
proof that you want to do something about your current situation.

Therefore,
you don't need to blame yourself for "having compared."

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You are only comparing a part of the other person

When you are comparing,
we are only looking at a "part" of the other person.

• Moments when things are going well
• Moments that look fun
• Only the results

The anxiety and hesitation leading up to those moments are invisible.

Even if you compare things that aren't fully visible,
it won't lead to an accurate assessment.

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The more you compare, the less you hear your own voice

If you keep comparing,
"What do I want to do?"
becomes unclear.

When someone else's pace becomes the standard,
your own pace is easily invalidated.

The reason you feel tired is
because that state has been continuing for a long time.

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Make days when you compare into days to "return"

If you try to eliminate days when you compare,
you will only become more conscious of it.

That is why I
decided that if I compare, I will return.
• Put down your smartphone

• Look at the small things right in front of you
• Prioritize how you feel today
Just by doing that, your feelings will return a little.

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When it is still painful

"Even though I know better, I still compare."

On days like that,
please change the object of comparison to just one thing.
Not the you of yesterday or your ideal self,

but your current state.
Are you tired today?

Do you have some breathing room today?
That is enough.

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One easy option

If you find yourself comparing, close the screen.

You don't have to solve it.

You don't have to rethink it.
Just closing it is enough.
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Summary

• Comparing is a natural reaction
• You are only comparing a part of the other person
• Days when you compare are days to return
It is okay if you compared yourself today.

At the moment you realized that,
you were already trying to return to yourself properly.