How to think when you start to dislike yourself
To start with the conclusion,
when you start to dislike yourself, it means you are not seeing yourself accurately.
It is not because you have a bad personality,
nor is it because you are a failure as a person.
It is simply that your heart is tired,
and you are only looking at yourself with a harsh eye.
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When you dislike yourself, you are only seeing a part of the picture
When we dislike ourselves,
we are only looking at the parts where we "couldn't do it."
・Things you couldn't do
・Things that didn't go well
・Parts where you are inferior compared to others
However,
that is only a small part of who you are.
In reality,
there are things you have accomplished
and things you have endured.
They are definitely there.
It is just that, at that moment, they have become invisible to you.
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Many serious people end up disliking themselves
If you didn't care,
you wouldn't blame yourself so much.
"I want to do better"
"I don't want to be like this"
It is precisely because you think this way
that you become harsh on yourself.
Therefore, people who struggle enough to dislike themselves
are actually very serious people.
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"Disliking" is also a sign of fatigue
The feeling of disliking yourself
is, in many cases, caused by fatigue.
When your heart is healthy,
you can let go of minor failures.
But when you are tired,
everything looks like a failure.
That is a matter of your condition, not your personality.
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You don't have to like yourself
People often say "try to like yourself," but
many people find it painful because they cannot do that.
You don't have to force yourself to like yourself.
First,
"you don't have to dislike yourself"
Starting from here is enough.
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There is only one thing you can do today
Today,
it is enough to just not criticize yourself.
You don't have to improve either.
You don't have to be positive.
Just,
try taking a step back and thinking,
"I just can't think that way right now."
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One easy option
Decide "not to evaluate my current self."
Just by doing that, your heart will feel a little lighter.
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Summary
• Disliking yourself just means your perspective has narrowed
• The more serious you are, the easier it is to blame yourself
• Even if you can't like yourself, you don't have to dislike yourself
Even if there is a day when you dislike yourself,
your value does not change.
Today is just
a day where it is okay not to feel that way.