Common Traits of People Who Are 'Bad at Resting'
To put it simply,
people who are bad at resting just have too strong a sense of responsibility.
They aren't people who want to slack off.
Rather, they are people who are trying to do things properly.
That is precisely why they cannot rest well.
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Feeling like you'll be left behind if you rest
When you try to rest,
don't you get feelings like these?
・I feel like I have to do something
・I feel like I'm the only one standing still
・I feel like I'm going to fall behind
That is
an anxiety that arises precisely because you are observant of those around you.
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Unable to feel value in time spent doing nothing
The more someone is bad at resting,
the less they can accept a version of themselves that isn't doing something.
But people
don't have to be doing something all the time.
Because there is time spent doing nothing,
you become able to move again.
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Even while resting, your mind is working
Even if you are resting your body,
your mind is running at full capacity.
・Tomorrow's schedule
・Things that aren't finished
・Moments where you failed
With this,
you cannot rest in the true sense.
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Being bad at resting is the flip side of talent
You have a sense of responsibility.
You can think ahead.
You don't want to cause trouble for others.
That is
a strength when living in society.
However, when that strength
is directed too much at yourself, it becomes exhausting.
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It's okay to practice resting
Resting is not
something where being good or bad at it is determined from birth.
It is something you get used to little by little.
At first,
it's okay if you can't rest completely.
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One easy option
Decide that "today is a day for practicing resting."
Just by doing that, your guilt will decrease a little.
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Summary
• Being bad at resting is because you have a strong sense of responsibility
• There is value in time spent doing nothing
• It is okay to practice resting
You don't have to blame yourself for not being able to rest.
That, too, is a part of your kindness.