Is that 'watching over' actually a lack of interest?
I have had the privilege of being involved in child welfare work. I continue to think about how we can create environments (which include not just physical spaces, but also human relationships) where children can grow up healthy in mind and body.
In the process, I encountered a way of thinking that I want to cherish.
The other day, at a symposium themed on the integration of local child and family support, social care, and overall child-rearing support including support for children with disabilities, I heard words that struck a chord with me.
The term 'watching over' is commonly used, but I dislike it. 'Aren't you just waiting for things to become critical while calling it watching over?'
These words startled me.
When we are afraid of getting hurt by getting involved, or when we stop because we don't know what to do, don't we often use the term 'watching over' to justify ourselves?
It might be similar to the psychology of looking the other way when witnessing bullying. While the term 'watching over' has the warm meaning of trusting the other person, it can sometimes become a cover for 'avoiding involvement'.
Of course, it does not mean we should intervene immediately in everything. Choosing to pause, waiting for change, and letting time work in our favor are also important processes in deciding what we should do.
I feel that 'watching over' that truly helps someone is not the same as leaving them alone.
Isn't it about 'keeping your interest focused on them and being prepared to reach out whenever necessary'?
This applies to children, partners, and even ourselves.
Rather than watching over to escape from 'trouble,' I want to cherish a warm and powerful gaze that respects the other person's existence and never forgets to provide necessary support.
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