How to Protect Your Mental Health During Marriage Hunting: A Matchmaker's Serious Thoughts on 'Ways to Keep Your Spirits Up'
Hello.
This is Kutsuna from the marriage agency Cutopia.
Recently, when I post photos of myself cooking,
people often tell me, "Your expression is completely different from when you're working as a matchmaker."
It's true; when I'm cooking, my mind feels relaxed.
Last night, I made croquettes for the first time in a while.
At first glance, it looks like a simple dish to make, but it actually takes quite a bit of effort.
Boil the potatoes
Sauté the onions and ground meat in a separate frying pan
Season each lightly and mix them together
Shape them, coat them in flour, egg, and breadcrumbs, then fry them!
Honestly, it gives me a bit of a sense of accomplishment (laughs).
Even so, when I eat them freshly fried with plenty of shredded cabbage,
"Ah, how happy I am..." is something I say naturally.
In that way,taking a little time and effort to satisfy your own heartis something I feel is very important in this day and age.
"When I'm hunting for a marriage partner, my mental health gradually starts to decline..."
Recently, I've been receiving more consultations like this.
It's true that marriage hunting takes energy.
Having expectations, feeling down, and then getting back up again...
Repeating those days gradually causes fatigue to build up in the heart.
Actually, there was a time when I 'collapsed' too.
It wasn't because of marriage hunting, but
I myself have also had an experience in the past where Iseverely lost my mental and physical balance.
Triggered by the thought patterns I had at the time and the stress that had accumulated unknowingly,
one day, I suddenly reached my limit.
It took me a full three years to recover.
During that time, what I worked on was—
Reviewing your own habits of thought
Learning how to relieve stress
Learning how to deal with yourself when you feel down
...I took my time and gradually got things in order.
Now, my heart doesn't get shaken by just anything. Because I had that experience,
I truly want you, who are working hard right now, to take care of yourself before your heart breaks from the bottom of my heart.
It is better to 'not let your mental state drop' than to 'raise it'
I am often asked, 'How can I lift my spirits?', but what I value is,
not trying to force them up,
and, protecting them so they don't drop any further
is what matters.
It is basic, but,
getting enough sleep
eating properly
These two things are directly linked to emotional stability.
When you are tired, be careful about 'over-scheduling'
There is something I would like those who are marriage hunting to be especially conscious of.
That is,how you plan your schedule.
'I scheduled three matchmaking meetings this week, but I feel kind of tired...'
--I actually hear that voice often.
During marriage hunting, because of the desire not to miss any chances,
you tend to over-schedule yourself.
However, if your body and mind cannot keep up--
you might not be able to show your true charm
or you might feel a sudden drop in mood afterward
Things like that can happen.
By creating 'white space' in your schedule,
you create time to carefully reflect on each encounter,
and time to recover yourself.
'I'll just stick to this one thing today.'
Deciding that can sometimes lead to a marriage hunting experience without regrets.
Marriage hunting isn't about 'constantly pushing yourself'
Marriage hunting is not something you should always be pushing yourself to the limit for.
Days to rest, days to relax, and days to not think about it are also important times.
Please don't blame yourself for feeling down.
'Things not going well' does not mean 'you are a bad person'.
What's important in marriage hunting isthe 'power to continue' and the 'power to stay balanced'.
Please value your own pace so you don't get too tired.
Why not get your marriage hunting back on track?
At Cutopia, we propose ways to approach marriage hunting that are tailored to you.
If you're feeling like, 'What should I do in my case?',
please feel free to consult with us.
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This blog was brought to you by Satomi Kutsuna, representative of
Marriage Agency Cutopia based in Nihonbashi, Tokyo.
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