How to be happy: 'Know that everyone has gossip'

The flower language of Hardenbergia is,
'I'm glad I met you'.

Meeting people,
warms our lives.

But at the same time,
as long as you interact with people,
misunderstandings, gossip, and drifting apart are unavoidable.

'I'm glad I met you'
To protect the relationships where you can feel that way,
perhaps it is important to understand a little bit about human nature.
It might be important.

'That person said this about you'

When you hear things like that,
it still hurts a little.

If it's someone you thought you were close to,
it's even more of a shock.

'I didn't know they thought that way'
'They say things behind my back...'

You might feel angry,
or sad.

But perhaps,
that pain,

'I don't have any gossip about me'
'Everything is fine in my circle'

the more you think that,
the greater it feels.

People,
are creatures who end up talking about others.

It's not just bad-mouthing,

'That person hasn't been well lately'
'That person is amazing'
'I heard this about that person'

like that,
we live our lives while making others the topic of conversation.

Therefore,
having people talk about you somewhere,
is probably unavoidable.

Just knowing that,
made me feel a little easier.

Of course,
no one is happy to be gossiped about,
and I want to avoid doing it myself as much as possible.

But,
'That will never happen'
if you think that,
your heart will be in turmoil when you find out.

So lately,

'Ah, well, they're human'

I try to accept it with just that thought.

Then,
I stopped dwelling on it more than necessary.

Besides,
I'm not perfect either.

I sometimes compare people in my heart,
or judge them on my own.

That is precisely why,
I feel I can be a little kinder,
to the immaturity of others.

It is difficult to create a world without gossip.

But,
within that,
you can choose how you want to be.

Don't participate in talk that hurts others.
Don't make fun of people who aren't there.

By valuing such small things,
I think you can be happy.

Books that influenced me in writing this article

The Conquest of Happiness

Why do people suffer from the evaluations and rumors of others?
It is a book that made me re-examine such 'human nature',
from a slightly distant perspective.
Please check it out.

I have also summarized other 'ways to be happy' flowers
in the link below.
Please take as much as you need🍀

Thank you for reading until the end.
I hope to see you in another article.
🍀May you be happy🍀

Top image 'Hardenbergia violacea'
Photo by KENPEI / Wikimedia Commons
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