How to be happy: 'Don't jump to conclusions'

The flower in the top image is an 'Agapanthus'.
Its flower language is 'intellectual attire'.

'It must be this way.'

We make many assumptions every day.

When a friend is slow to reply,
'Maybe they don't like me.'

When you are corrected at work,
'I am no good.'

When a child falls down,
'Today is an unlucky day.'

But is that really the case?

Maybe they are just busy and slow to reply.

Maybe you were corrected because you are expected to do better.

Maybe a child can become stronger and kinder precisely because they fell and learned what pain is.
Even if there is only one fact, there is not only one meaning.

I sometimes handle data at work.

In data analysis, I am taught that it is dangerous to draw conclusions based on a single number.

How does it compare to the previous year?
Are there seasonal factors?
Is the sample size sufficient?
Are there other influencing factors?
'Can we really say that?'

I repeat that question many times before drawing a conclusion.

However, it is strange when it comes to myself.

Once I fail,

'Yes, I had no talent.'
When one person says something,

'It seems the whole world thinks so.'
I draw conclusions about my life with a sample size that would get me scolded in statistics.

I am careful with data, but my evaluation of myself is surprisingly sloppy.
According to Alfred Adler's way of thinking,

people do not suffer or rejoice because of the events themselves,

but because of the meaning they give to those events.
In other words, what creates suffering is not the fact,
but the 'assumption' that it must be this way.
Of course, judgment is necessary.

But just by thinking that it might only look that way for now,
you can be a little kinder to others and yourself.
When you jump to conclusions, the world becomes narrow.

If you don't jump to conclusions,

other possibilities still remain in the world.
Happiness may not be about having the right answer,

but about not rushing to an answer.

Not jumping to conclusions means
not throwing away possibilities.

For others.
For yourself.

For today as well.
Don't jump to conclusions.

I believe that this intellectual attire
will make you happy.

Books that influenced me in writing this article

'The Practice of Not Reacting' by Ryunosuke Kusanagi

People suffer not because of the events themselves, but because of the meaning they give to those events.

Reading this book will help you develop the habit of taking a step back and thinking, 'Is that a fact, or is it my own interpretation?'

It is a book packed with tips for practicing 'not jumping to conclusions' in daily life.
Please check it out.

I have also summarized other flowers of 'how to be happy'
at the link below.
Please take as much as you need 🍀

Thank you for reading to the end.
I hope to see you in another article.
🍀 May you be happy 🍀