How to be happy: 'Deceiving'

The top image features a
weeping cherry tree with branches hanging softly.
Its form, swaying in the wind, is somewhat ambiguous,
possessing a beauty that lacks clear outlines.
The flower language of the weeping cherry is 'deception'.
Even this word, which sounds negative at first glance,
might be a gentle technique for protecting the heart
if you look at it from a different perspective.

Is deceiving a sign of weakness?

When we hear the word 'deceive',
it gives the impression of running away
or being cunning.

Hiding one's true feelings.
Turning a blind eye to problems.

Somewhere,
we feel that we 'should face things properly'.
But people are not strong enough

to accept everything head-on all the time.
In fact, if you try to remain completely honest all the time,
your heart might break first.

A 'margin' to protect the heart

For example, when you are tired.

Telling yourself, 'I can still do this.'
Brushing it off by saying, 'I'm fine.'

This is also a form of deception.

However, this kind of deception requires a little caution.

If you keep saying 'I'm fine' even when you are at your limit,
that margin will eventually
turn into a place that drives you into a corner.
A margin is originally a space for resting.

It is a place to catch your breath.
That is why

you should use it just a little bit to gently protect yourself.
That is the perfect margin.

Deception is a bridge to the future

The important thing
is not to 'keep deceiving forever'.

It's just that you can't face it yet.
It's just that you can't put it into words yet.

Do not force yourself to break that state.

Deception is
not just procrastination,
but also a preparation period.

When time passes and you have a little more room,
that is when you should face it properly.

Honesty is not the only right answer

In this world,
there are many situations where 'being honest'
is considered correct.

Of course, that is important.

But if honesty sometimes hurts you,
it is okay to soften the edges a little.

Blur your words.
Soften your feelings.

That is also one way to cherish yourself.

Living while deceiving

People are surely
living while deceiving themselves little by little.

To accept the imperfect self.
To keep a balance so as not to break.

Like the weeping cherry,
there are times when you can remain beautiful
even while remaining unclear.

You don't have to make everything black and white.
You can move forward even while remaining a little ambiguous.


If you couldn't do something well today,
just deceive yourself a little and go to sleep.

And then, when tomorrow comes,
you can face it a little bit.

Your own pace is fine.
That pace
will make you happy🍀

Books that influenced me in writing this article

I have also summarized other flowers of 'how to be happy'
in the link below.
Please take as much as you need🍀

Thank you for reading until the end.
I hope to see you in another article.
🍀May you be happy🍀