How to be happy: 'Embracing uncertainty'

For the top image, I chose a Spathiphyllum.
The part that looks like a soft, white petal
is actually a modified leaf.
Its flower language is 'enveloping love'.

Things that are unclear,
things that have no answer,
things that are wavering.
These are 'uncertainties'.

To live without rejecting them,
but by gently enveloping them.
That, too, is a form of happiness.

Today, I will think about happiness starting from 'uncertainty'.

What is uncertainty?

Even when we call it uncertainty,
it might be a little hard to grasp.

For example, it is things like this:

When you don't know if you made the right choice.
When you cannot see what the other person is thinking.
When you cannot imagine what will happen in the future.

Furthermore, it includes yourself when your feelings change from yesterday to today,
and the reality where your hard work goes unrewarded.

When we list them like this,
we realize that uncertainty is not something special,
but is contained within our daily lives themselves.

Uncertainty does not disappear

Even so, we find ourselves searching for
'certainty' somewhere.

We want the right answer.
We want to feel secure.
We don't want to make mistakes.

However, uncertainty does not go away.

The future cannot be read,
people's feelings cannot be seen,
and even our own hearts continue to waver.

In other words, uncertainty is
not something to be excluded,
but something that has been with us all along.

Do not make an enemy of uncertainty

Trying to erase uncertainty makes life painful.

This is because we try to force answers
to things that have no answers even if we keep thinking about them.

Therefore, what is needed
is not to eliminate it, but to change how we relate to it.

Do not make an enemy of uncertainty.
Treat it simply as something that is there.

Just by doing that, the way you use your mental energy will change a little.

Embracing

A little softer than 'accepting'.

The feeling of 'embracing'.

It is okay if you don't understand it.
It is okay if you cannot organize it.

Leave it here, while it remains ambiguous.

Anxiety, hesitation, and discomfort,
do not try to force them away.

Then, strangely enough,
they will exist there more peacefully
than when you were trying to drive them away.

Forgive your wavering self

Embracing uncertainty
also means forgiving yourself for wavering.

It is okay if what you say today is different from yesterday.
It is okay if your feelings change.

That is not a weakness,
but a natural state of being 'capable of change'.

Rather than seeking security in things that do not change,
acknowledging your own changing self
is a much kinder way to live.

Living by enveloping

Like a Spathiphyllum.

Instead of gripping it tightly,
gently envelop it.

Instead of cutting things apart with correctness,
leave things as they are, ambiguity and all.

It is okay if you cannot understand everything.
It is okay if you cannot decide everything.

Even so, if you can cherish
what you are feeling right here and now,
that is enough.

Conclusion

Uncertainty is not something special.
It is always right by your side.

That is precisely why, instead of rejecting it,
try embracing it.

It is okay to remain without an answer.
It is okay to remain wavering.

Spending today in that state
will lead to a gentle happiness.

Books that influenced me in writing this article

I have also summarized other 'ways to be happy' flowers in the link below. Please take as many as you need🍀

Thank you for reading until the end.
I hope to see you in another article.
🍀May you be happy🍀