How to Be Happy: 'Reclaiming Your Heart'

The top image features a lily of the valley.
Its flower language is 'the return of happiness'.

Happiness that has once slipped away
can gently return once more.
It is a flower with such a gentle meaning.

In days chased by busyness and responsibility,
before I knew it,
I had left my heart somewhere behind.

Today,
starting with 'reclaiming your heart',
I will think about ways to become happy.

What it means to have your heart stolen

Getting obsessed with investing and chasing only numbers.
The frustration from work that doesn't fade even after returning home.
Prioritizing children and family so much that you put yourself last.

None of these are bad things.
Rather, they are proof that you are living with all your might.

However, in the midst of that, little by little,
the 'place where your heart belongs'
can start to fade.

No matter what you are doing, you feel restless somewhere.
Things that should make you happy feel distant.

That is
a sign that your heart is being stolen.

Do not entrust your heart too much

When people focus on something,
they tend to entrust their whole heart to it.

Whether it's work, family, or investing.

If things go well, you feel at ease,
and if they don't, you feel anxious.

In that swaying,
your heart can get caught up as well.

That is why you should not entrust your heart to just one thing.

Precisely because everything is important,
do not leave everything to just one of them.

There are days when work doesn't go well.
There are days when you have no room to spare at home.
There are days when investing doesn't go as planned.

Even so, if your heart doesn't have only one place to belong,
everything will not collapse.

Time spent with someone,
casual daily life,
and time to notice your own feelings.

Having several such small places to belong
is what leads to protecting your heart.

To reclaim your heart

You don't need to do anything special.

Just stop for a little while.

Have time that produces nothing.
Zone out. Look at the sky.
Try spending time that has no meaning.

Try putting your current feelings into words.
I'm frustrated. I'm tired.
Just by doing that, you can return to yourself a little.

When you think too much, move your body.
Walk or take a bath.
You will naturally return to 'here and now'.

These are all small things.
But those small moments
become a place for your heart to belong.

What the heart teaches us

There is a work called 'Kokoro' by Natsume Soseki.

This story
is not something that teaches you
how to organize your heart.

Rather,
it depicts how a heart that you can no longer handle yourself
becomes heavier.

Feelings you cannot tell anyone.
Regrets you have continued to carry.
Loneliness that no one can touch.

As a result of carrying these alone,
the heart gradually stops moving.

What I feel while reading it is
'if you leave your heart alone, it will weaken'.
That is why I think.

The choice not to let it weaken

There is no need to push a heart that you cannot handle yourself
further in a weak direction.

The more tired people are,
the more they tend to overthink, blame themselves,
and try to carry it all alone.

But that is not an action to organize the heart,
but often makes it even heavier.

You don't have to try to be strong.

Just don't let it get any weaker.

Just by that, the heart is protected a little.

Happiness will return

The flower language of the lily of the valley is 'the return of happiness'.

Happiness is not something that exists somewhere far away,
but something that was originally inside you.

It just became invisible in the busyness.

Do not entrust your heart to just one thing.
Create a little time to return to yourself.

Just by that,
that happiness will gently return once more.


Anytime is fine.
Please try to create time to return to your own heart.

That should bring back the happiness that is inside you
once again🍀

Books that influenced me in writing this article

I have also summarized other 'ways to become happy' flowers at the link below. Please take as much as you need🍀

Thank you for reading until the end.
I hope to see you in another article.
🍀May you be happy🍀