How to be happy: 'Meeting someone you can't help but love'

The language of roses is 'love'.

For a long time, many people
have projected their feelings for someone
onto this flower.

It is not just beautiful,
but even including its thorns,
I feel it is somewhat similar to human affection.

To love is
not just about beautiful feelings.

It involves worrying,
getting hurt,
and fearing loss.

Even so,
before you know it, you find yourself cherishing them.

In life,
there are moments when you meet
such a 'being you can't help but love'.

For me, that is my wife and my children.
Especially the presence of my children
has greatly changed how I see my life.

Just by watching their small sleeping faces,
I find myself thinking, 'I'll try a little harder'.

Even on days when I come home tired,
there are days when just their smiles save me.

Happiness is
not just
'being satisfied yourself'.

Eating delicious food.
Buying things you want.
Getting free time.

Of course, that is also happiness.

But once you start to love someone,
the shape of happiness changes a little.

'I want this person to be healthy.'
'I want this child to be smiling.'

The very time spent wishing for that
makes life warmer.

However, in this world,
there are people who wanted children but could not have them,
and people who intentionally chose a different life.

Therefore,
I do not think happiness is determined
solely by 'having children'.

Depending on the person,
the being they can't help but love is different.

It might be a partner.
It might be a friend.
It might be a parent.
It might be a dog or cat you are raising with care.
It might be a job or form of expression you are passionate about.

To meet something you can think,
'For the sake of this being...'

That,
I believe, is what makes people stronger, kinder,
and sometimes becomes a reason to live.

Love is not just pretty things.

Worries increase.
You get hurt.
You learn the fear of loss.

Even so,
a life where you love someone
is somehow rich.

Because it shows you scenery
that you could not have seen on your own.

After the children are asleep,
while tidying up the messy room,
I suddenly think.

It's busy.
It costs money too.
Free time has decreased.

But,
I realize that within this noise,
there are life's treasures.

Meeting a being you can't help but love.

That,
I felt, is not about 'possessing' happiness,
but about nurturing a 'heart that can feel' happiness.

A book that influenced me in writing this article

'Lonely Castle in the Mirror' by Mizuki Tsujimura

People
can be saved
through connections with others.

Even if you can't put it into words,
by meeting a being you can think,
'I want to live because this person is here',
life gradually becomes warmer.

It was a book that taught me that.
I highly recommend it.

I have also summarized other flowers of 'how to be happy'
at the link below.
Please take as much as you need 🍀

Thank you for reading until the end.
I hope to see you in another article.
🍀 May you be happy 🍀