How to be happy: 'Stop carrying other people's emotions'

The top image is a 'Bergenia'.
Its flower language is 'hidden emotions'.

It is said that this flower language was given to it
because it firmly takes root
while enduring harsh cold and freezing snow,
blooming in the spring.

Many people live
while holding unspoken thoughts deep in their hearts.

People who smile even when they are angry.
People who say 'I'm fine' even when they are suffering.
People who want help but cannot rely on anyone.

Everyone
carries emotions that cannot be seen from the outside.

That is precisely why
the kinder a person is,
the more sensitively they pick up on that atmosphere.

If someone else is in a bad mood,
they think it might be their own fault.
If someone is feeling down, they start to feel distressed themselves.
They unconsciously take on the burden,
feeling they must cheer the other person up or support them.

But, in reality,
other people's emotions belong to them alone.

Of course,
you can be there for them.

You can listen to them,
and you can reach out a hand.

However,
you cannot live their life for them.

You cannot completely erase someone else's anxiety,
nor is it necessary to keep absorbing all of someone else's anger.
Even so,
the kinder a person is,

the more they think,
'I have to do something about this.'
And before they know it,
their own heart's capacity

becomes filled with other people's emotions.
In truth,
they end up exhausting the energy they should have used for their own lives

on someone else's moods or expectations.
That is why, at times,
it is necessary to draw a line.

This does not mean being cold.
It means distinguishing,

'That is your emotion, and I will cherish my own.'

You can give a map to someone who is lost.
But,

you cannot keep walking

in their place.
If you keep carrying other people's emotions,

before you know it,
you will lose track of your own.
What you like,

what causes you pain,
and what you desire.
Everything

becomes based on others.
To be happy,
first, return to your own heart.

Rather than someone else's mood,
focus on steadying your own breathing.

Rather than someone else's expectations,
cherish your own true feelings.

By not taking on too many of other people's emotions,
your heart

will gradually find room to breathe.
I believe that leads to peace of mind,

leads to calmness,
and leads to happiness that is uniquely your own.
Even in the harsh cold,

the Bergenia
waits for spring without losing its roots.
I thought that not being swallowed by someone else's emotions
and cherishing your own heart

is also a necessary root for moving toward happiness.

A book that influenced me in writing this article

You are allowed to live for yourself now

Living while protecting your own heart
without taking on too many of someone else's expectations or emotions.
While relaxing your shoulders,
this is a book that teaches you
the 'feeling of returning to your own life'.
Please take a look.

I have also compiled other 'ways to be happy' flowers
at the link below.
Please take only what you need 🍀

Thank you for reading until the end.
I hope to see you in another article.
🍀 May you be happy 🍀