The Husband Who Became 'Every Day is Sunday' and the Wife Whose Thoughts Are Interrupted: A Candid Look

It has been about two weeks since my husband retired.

The long-awaited arrival of 'Every Day is Sunday life'—
…or so I thought, but something seems a bit off, doesn't it?

He is so spaced out that it's worrying

I thought that once he graduated from working at a company, his days would continue like a series of holidays.

However, that hasn't been the case so far.

He isn't immersing himself in hobbies, but rather sleeping an excessive amount.
It's to the point where I'm worried he might actually be unwell and I'm just missing the signs.

And while he's awake...

He talks to me whenever he has a spare moment.

We aren't living separate lives under one roof, nor are we divorced,
and I consider him a great advisor and partner who shares my values.

But if my thoughts and reading time are interrupted every single day—

honestly, it's just... annoying. 💢💢

It was fine while he was going to the office

'Have a nice day, take care!'

Once I said that, I wouldn't see him again until the evening.

Even when our days off overlapped, it was at most a week or ten days,
and during that time, my husband was often immersed in his hobbies.

No matter how happy and healthy our relationship is,

if the time I spend lost in thought
is completely interrupted every single day...

that is quite a bit of stress.

Extreme heat + retirement makes for some tough days

For the past two weeks, it has been so hot that I don't want to go outside unless I have to.
Just being at home drains your energy.

In that situation, being together every day and being talked to,
making it hard to organize my own thoughts.

For me, it has become a bit of a suffocating time.

A turning point in life that visits men

Of course, this is something that tends to happen when someone who has worked for a long time
enters the next stage of life.

It doesn't just happen to men,
but it is a common story to feel a sudden loss of tension right after retirement.

Since I have been pursuing what I love from a relatively early stage,
I think I also had the mindset that I would be the one to support things if something happened at home.

...That said, I really wish he would stop interrupting my thoughts (← persistent, I know).

I don't know yet if he will shift into a full-fledged senior life after this,
or if he will find a new job in a different form.

I, too, intend to calm down a bit and watch how things develop.

If you want to secure your freedom, move for yourself

To be honest, while he was still an active employee, I was able to take on various challenges with peace of mind.

Thanks to his many years of work, there is no major anxiety about just living.

But as my husband approaches retirement age,
I, being younger, have also reached an age where the word 'retirement' is starting to appear.

Eventually, the day will come when one of us lives alone.
I think that is reality.

Even if it's a little annoying (lol), the fact that we are both healthy and active now is a grateful and precious time.

It's fine for my husband to be free to work or not in the future.
But if there is any anxiety,
I would be happy if he thought about 'securing income' rather than 'reducing finances'.

And for me to move freely with my own music activities and hobbies,
I will increase my options 'other than' relying on family members who have left the workforce.

I feel that way once again.

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