Providing backup for the claim that 'Lingerie is completely ineffective for sexless relationships; thinking about colors that appeal to men or popular brands is a waste of time'

People who have become such fashion freaks that they explore wonderful lingerie as 'the ultimate final destination for their own personal fashion' are

saying, 'It's frustrating that so many people misunderstand this, but a lingerie hobby is absolutely not a tool to resolve a sexless relationship; this is purely and simply a personal pleasure just for oneself. But that's exactly why it's wonderful and the best.'

I see them asserting this and think, that is absolutely correct.

Lingerie, or sleepwear, is a very special kind of thing.

Basically, it's clothing that only you see.

Clothing that might never be seen by anyone else, not even once, for all eternity.

Spending money on that is a very luxurious act, isn't it.

It is a luxury

and

a waste

you could say, and

a sign of having room to spare

But could it be?

Oh, that's right.

Chic (iki).

You could call it that.

They say the Edo-period townspeople, who staked their lives on being chic, spent a fortune on the linings of their underwear and clothes, right?

And, though it goes without saying,'originally'no human being lives for the sake of others, but rather for their own sake, so when it comes to fashion, you should prioritize dressing in a way that is fun for you and makes you feel good.'Originally.'

However, of course, fashion has a very important role: by showing it to others, you present yourself as a 'friendly, wonderful person (someone who doesn't seem dangerous),' so

in the case of regular clothes other than underwear, you cannot choose based solely on your own preferences.

But, since it's your own life, isn't it sad to spend your own money to reluctantly wear clothes that are reassuring to others even though they are unpleasant to you?

And, actually,'there is a type of fashion where you can dress exactly as you like, purely for yourself, while almost completely ignoring the eyes of others and disregarding social appearances'and that is...

that would belingerieright.

So, is that why many fashion lovers are drawn to lingerie as a final destination? I'm not very fashion-savvy, but I can understand that flow~.

(By the way, as for male partners... those guys don't look at lingerie! They are only interested in the 'contents'! They aren't happy about the lingerie itself, just that it's 'revealing' or 'a bit see-through'! I've heard there are men who can distinguish top-tier Italian brand underwear, but that's less than one in a hundred. They are a super minority, like those who grew up watching Tatsuhiko Shibusawa and French films during the era when erotic content was imprinted in their youth, or those in the fashion industry who are extremely interested in fashion.)

Now, whether it was Musashi's Book of Five Rings, the Hagakure, or Yukio Mishima's Introduction to the Hagakure, or maybe none of those—the source of information is dubious, but

'A samurai shouldwear new, clean underwear so that he is ready to die at any time'

I've read something like that.

Lingerie as a hobby is probablysomething close to thatlol

Whether I die of old age or get hit by a car, I want to die wearing clean, carefully maintained 'high-quality underwear suitable for a mature woman,' and I want to be that kind of person.

Therefore, the act of wearing beautiful, high-quality lingerie

seducing a partner is actually almost never a factor, and it's really

the ultimate luxury of keeping parts of yourself that no one else can see beautiful just for your own sake

isn't it.

Now, when you look at popular 'lingerie photo accounts' on Instagram, you often see very beautiful women posting sexy photos one after another, so it seems that not only men but even women themselves are under a huge misunderstanding about this, but

playful or sexy or even erotic underwear

isn't worn to seduce someone with erotic lingerie but rather,

it's simply a game of leaving behind your daily burdens, being freed from the self-image demanded by others and society, and acknowledging and giving yourself permission for the existence of the self-image you secretly want to be, whether that is 'a version of yourself that is a mature, erotic adult woman,' or 'a version of yourself that is a thoroughly cute woman.'You are acknowledging and giving yourself permission for the existence of the self-image you secretly want to be.

That is probably

something close to men cherishing plastic models of fighter jets or tanks.

Even with Gunpla, they are models of weapons that kill people…(!) but when you look at them and think 'That's so cool...♥' and feel that 'the inner boy inside you is being healed,' it is...different from 'actually volunteering to join the Foreign Legion and killing people' or 'actually getting into street fights and killing each other,' isn't it?

Gunpla ownership rates and murder rates or military experience are actually more likely to be inversely proportional.

It's the same story.

From experience, and looking at my own friends, the people who secretly wear sexy lingerie and enjoy it by thinking, 'Hehe, I'm actually wearing such erotic, cool, high-quality underwear under my plain clothes,' were almost all plain, modest girls with very conservative jobs who were sexually conservative.

(But you know, those plain girls don't want to be misunderstood by their boyfriends as being a 'bitch,' so on days when there's a possibility of getting into bed with their boyfriend, or when they go to a hot spring with friends from work, these lingerie-loving plain girls intentionally wear plain, boring underwear lol. That's why men will never know about the existence of lingerie-loving plain girls who collect high-quality underwear lol.)

(If you don't believe me, try pretending not to look and quietly walk around the women's underwear section at Shinjuku Isetan or Nihonbashi Mitsukoshi. There are piles of super high-end underwear from places like Italy that are sheer and in vivid colors close to ridiculous fluorescent blue or fluorescent pink, or bright red—things that look like a sheer version of the Asakusa Samba Carnival. Some of those tiny, flashy, sheer fluorescent blue panties from France cost 5,000 yen, or in extreme cases, 20,000 yen. And there, rather than hostesses from Ginza, you'll see elegant married women in their 60s wearing gray suits who look like school teachers with minimal makeup—the kind who look like a plain version of Sayuri Yoshinaga—naturally picking up Italian red lace garter belts...!)

So,

Lingerie lovers do post quite sexy photos on Instagram and the like, but that is because clothing is not something that stands alone; its beauty comes from making the person wearing it comfortable and beautifully enhancing their figure. They just want to show off or keep a record of things like, 'Look how much better I look compared to the company average when I wear this,' or 'Look at this cut, this craftsmanship. This texture when it touches my skin.' They don't think even one millimeter about using it to seduce the opposite sex; they are enjoying it as fashion photography.

Even if they are showing off, or rather, appealing to someone, it is definitely not to seduce the opposite sex, but rather, in every way, to their own gender.

'Look at me, I look so good in this brand, lol. I'm so sexy, aren't I? Isn't it lovely? Isn't it cool? How about that?'

That's the kind of attitude they're showing off, right? Those people.

In other words,

The act of obsessing over lingerie is,

It's almost like wiping the floor of a studio apartment where no one ever visits, keeping the toilet sparkling clean, or arranging flowers,

or like having a private study that no one is allowed to enter, yet keeping it immaculately clean and burning incense just to please yourself,

if you're not careful,

it's even similar to donating school bags to an orphanage under a fake name just to feel good about yourself.

It's really close to things like that.

Huh? So, in the end, what kind of lingerie will resolve a sexless relationship, you ask?

Well, you see,

Thinking that you can excite your partner with something like lingerie when you're in a sexless or cold relationship is a complete misunderstanding.

Even if a fleeting smile you show after a long time or a single warm word might lead to resolving the lack of intimacy, the lingerie you bought while trying so hard won't contribute even a millimeter to fixing it.

Moreover, desperately spending money to choose provocative underwear and wearing it puts tremendous negative pressure on your partner, so stop it.

If you have that money, well, why not try giving them this, pretending it's to 'cure your stiff shoulders,' and see if it improves blood flow to the lower body? If that doesn't work, move on, move on.

It says to take four tablets a day, but one tablet a day works wonders for me. It's not just about increasing blood flow to, well, you know, the local area; it's effective for stiff shoulders, eye strain, and chronic fatigue. Plus, thanks to the ginsenosides, it brightens your mood and gives you motivation, so it's good for depression too. It's not just for erotic purposes... The extract is so bitter it feels like torture every day, and the dark brown sludge is stringy and spills everywhere, making a mess. In the end, this version, which is just powder compressed under pressure, is the easiest to take and the most economical.

And then, once you've tried the sample above and thought, 'Wait, what is this? It's incredibly effective, it improves every aspect of my quality of life, what is this, it's amazing,' then you should buy the bulk pack below. Do you understand?

But don't just rely on this; try to walk to the nearby convenience store or move your body a little, okay?

Getting back to the point.

Regarding lingerie,

'Even if my partner isn't the slightest bit happy, and even if it doesn't resolve the sexless situation, I don't care! This is what I want to wear!'

I think a woman with a peaceful expression who is wearing an item she likes, feeling good and treating it with care, is the most attractive.

In other words, you should just wear what you like. That's all!

P.S. The Japanese erotic sage, Master Tadashi Yoyogi, once said that when getting into bed, it's recommended for couples to sleep completely naked, because then there's no way it can be a hassle to take clothes off, and it makes you feel a bit more inclined to have sex—this is the secret to a happy marriage and a way to resolve sexless relationships, or something like that,an incredibly rough solutionhe said... well, yeah... that's true, I suppose... because sex is, after all, a part of daily life... it's true, taking off underwear or having it taken off... even just that can be a hassle, can't it... I get it... yeah...

↓↓ However... by the way...'A story about underwear that makes men feel incredibly emotional'is written in another post, so... please read it, tee-hee.