📚9 Can you become 'completely fearless' by adopting the [Habit of Not Caring]⁉️ (From the Vault)

※This is a draft that was about to be buried in the vault.
I'm thinking, maybe I'll dig these up and publish them from time to time? (Second time)
Since a little time has passed since I wrote it, I'm adding and revising as I go, but...

【The Habit of Not Caring】 61 Tips to Make Unnecessary Mental Fatigue Disappear
Yoshihito Naito (Psychologist, Visiting Professor at Rissho University, Representative of Anguild Ltd., Ph.D. from Keio University Graduate School of Sociology)
Asuka Publishing
First edition 8/20/2022

I had read a book by the same author in the past,【The Book That Makes Even a Lazy Person Like Me Surprisingly Motivated】And I did it twice without even realizing it‼️
No, I realized it halfway through, but...💦
Anyway, my daughters and son all have the habit of saying "It's a hassle."
While I was thinking, "Let's get them motivated to an interesting degree," my own motivation went into a downward spiral that knew no bounds.
I'm currently in the middle of the laziest period in my life🦥
And on top of that, I got a "broken bone," which is the perfect excuse for a lazy person🦴
What are you going to do, Charirere😱
W-w-well, isn't it fine if I just don't care?

So, here are just the notes on the parts I personally want to keep.
If you're wondering "What is this about?", please read the whole thing; you can read it in no time.
Well then, here we go!!

※This is not a book review or a collection of impressions, but a [Summary].
Please understand that.

● Value yourself the most. It's okay to put others second.
● "Transparency Illusion" = Don't worry, because your ulterior motives and nervousness aren't really conveyed to others.
● There is meaning in showing a smile → Whether you are truly having fun is secondary.
● Even superficial relationships can increase your sense of happiness.
● When you get nervous, instead of telling yourself to "calm down" or "be composed," tell yourself "I'm getting excited," and you can turn it into motivation.
● Assume in advance that there are many bad people in the world and that they are increasing every year.
● Disliked people are "social allergens"; it's fine to keep disliking them, and you don't have to get close to them.
● It's easier to get people to think "I'll help you" if you show a troubled expression or appearance.
● When you want to exert your strength, clenching your fists will give you spirit.
● Turn the eyes of others into motivation by thinking "I am being noticed."
● Rather than "being liked," aim for "not being disliked"; rather than "praising," aim for "not speaking ill of others."
● It's often more comfortable to aim for 3rd, 4th, or 5th place than to be at the top and be envied.
● Don't worry about trying to handle everything by yourself.
● "Psychological Contagion" → If you get close to complaining people or internet articles, you will get infected.
● If you lift your chin, straighten your back, and puff out your chest, your heart will become bold.
● Don't try to change people's opinions. If it looks like it will become an argument, back down quickly.
● When considering costs, be a calculating and cold person.
● Know that getting irritated when the weather is bad is a perfectly normal physiological phenomenon.
● When you have to guide people, tell yourself "It's natural to be strict," and don't worry too much.
● Accept that the "Halo Effect (cognitive distortion)" (unreasonable discrimination based on age, gender, appearance, education, occupation, etc.) is natural to exist.
● "Social Tuning" (= adopting opinions and attitudes to be liked by others) is tiring. It doesn't matter what others think of you.
● Self-affirmation doesn't need to be high; moderate is fine.
● Acknowledge your growth from your past self.
● Judge when to cut ties calmly, and don't drag it out.
● Have your own favorite, fall in love.
● The trick to self-suggestion is to believe without doubt that it will definitely work.
● The grass on the other side is not as green as you think.

Huh? Isn't it going to be surprisingly easy to put into practice?⁉️
Doesn't it seem like you don't have to try so hard?

While reading, I made a bulleted list of the parts I wanted to highlight or put sticky notes on.
However, I excluded things that I already "do," "understand," or "that's a bit..."
Whether I'm actually doing them is another matter.
Maybe it's good to read just this, remember it on occasion, and put it into practice.
It's like an index for myself.
I hope it's useful to someone.

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