What should be the top priority? [Mindset]

As a super serious person, I have lived my life prioritizing the common sense rules of the world.

Yes. Common sense is an uncertain thing that changes depending on who is saying it, and it is also uncertain because it differs by era and country...

Keeping promises

For example, keeping promises is important. Since it relates to trust, such as work deadlines, I also prioritize meeting deadlines strictly.
But isn't there anyone who thinks that promises must be kept no matter what?

For example, when you want to make a slight change to a promise with a friend due to a sudden thought or urgent business, are you able to properly propose your own circumstances? When I tried saying it, there were several times in the past where it turned out the other person actually preferred to change the date and time as well, or was glad to be able to do something else with the free time!

Also, when deciding something as a group, there were times when many people actually thought B was better, but because they thought "everyone must want A," they decided on A, only to find out later after talking to each person that many had actually thought B.

I can't say what I'm thinking...

Among those who cannot express their own feelings, aren't there feelings like "I'm afraid of being thought of as selfish" or "I'm afraid if I'm not the same as everyone else"?

Deep down, isn't there a sense of worthlessness that your own opinions are not worth listening to, or a fear that if you say something selfish, you will be hated and left alone?

It's okay. You have value no matter who you are. If you would be hated for expressing your own opinion, then that person probably wasn't a good match for you in the first place.

Value your own voice, value your own sudden thoughts. Please try prioritizing your own circumstances first. Surprisingly, for the other person, it might be something they "don't mind either way," and they might accept it easily.

Let's be more flexible and prioritize our own circumstances at that moment.

I am holding consultation sessions, formerly known as tea parties

These are free consultation sessions via Zoom.

I will post the schedule for January as soon as it is decided.
The following is the announcement for December for your reference.

I myself, from my mid-40s, was in a state of "I don't want my life to end like this" but "I don't know what to do or how to do it."

I reached my current life by fumbling through various things.

During that time, there are many things I have worried about and learned.


If you currently have even the slightest feeling of "I don't know what it is, but I don't want to stay like this," I hold these tea parties hoping that you can take home some hints.

Those who have participated have given me positive feedback, saying "I felt energized" or "I got some hints."
On Instagram Live, even the regulars tell me, "I feel relieved when I come here" and "Your range of topics is interesting."
Why not pick up "some hint you need right now" in such a "relieving space"?

Delivering messages every day on Instagram

In July 2024, I created a new account.
I am delivering messages every day!

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Energy and courage to everyone involved with me!
And I will support their changes in both tangible and intangible ways!!!

These days, I am realizing, "Ah! So this is what it meant..." regarding what I have learned so far.
Chika (2025.1.12)