There is no absolute right answer to parenting, but you can find a solution you are satisfied with
My older child was absent from school for two years during middle school.
Now they are in their third year of correspondence high school,
and although they occasionally take supplementary lessons,
they are earning the credits required for graduation as planned.
My younger child also
has days when they don't want to go to school, but
our stance as parents is
"Whether you go or not,
it's fine to follow your own heart."
That is what we believe.
Because of this,
my younger child sometimes arrives late to school or stays home.
However, compared to before,
their reluctance to go to school has decreased.
The time when I was a "parent of a child who refuses to go to school"
has gradually become a "memory."
I don't intend to spoil my children,
nor am I neglecting them.
It feels like we have found a moderate distance between parent and child,
a distance that is comfortable for both of us.
We parents only scold our children when:
1. The child breaks a rule they set for themselves
2. They lose control of their time
is when we do.
There is no absolute right answer to parenting.
If a parent
has a strong belief that "one must go to school,"
it is hard to accept a child's refusal to attend,
and the parent's own heart can become weak.
Even though
going to school
is not the absolute right answer.
When a child stops going to school, parents experience unstable emotions, such as their previous "values" being shaken or lost. Of course, I experienced those feelings too.
The reason I wanted to create a parent-child welcome station is that I strongly felt the need for a place where one could feel safe and know they are not alone during unstable times.
Besides, unfortunately, I occasionally see very expensive businesses targeting school refusal that prey on people's vulnerabilities.
Well, thinking it's unfortunate might just be because it doesn't align with my values, and perhaps there are people who need those kinds of business-like methods.
There is no absolute right answer to parenting, but
you can find a solution you are satisfied with.
That is why I want to create a place where parents and children can feel safe from a well-being perspective, find satisfaction in parenting, and create a future where parents and children can smile.