Why do we feel differently about the same event? 🌿 How the direction of your heart slightly changes how you see reality

Even though the events are similar,
why is it that there are days when you can take things positively,
and days when you feel a bit weighed down?

The situation should be almost the same,
yet the way your heart feels is different.

I am sure everyone has had that experience. 😌

Perhaps it is not the event itself,
but how you perceive it,
that changes the weight in your heart. 🌿

Last time, I wrote about
the axis of 'how I want to be'as a place to return to when you are lost.

This time, I would like to think a little about
'the reason why the way we feel changes even for the same event,'
which is also related to that axis. 🌿

This is the previous article. 📖

🕊️ The state of your heart influences how you receive things

When things aren't going well,
you want to look for reasons outside yourself,
thinking 'maybe the environment is bad' or 'maybe the timing was off.'

Of course, that might be one fact.

But at the same time,
how you receive that event
is also influenced by your'state of heart.'🌿

The direction of your heart
quietly influences our choices.

🌿 What words you choose
🌿 What actions you take
🌿 Where you focus your awareness

As each of those things piles up,
it may eventually change the way the scenery in front of you looks
little by little.

🌱 The direction of your heart gradually changes your next actions

I myself have also had times when,
even though the event was the same,
the way I received it changed. 😊🌿

Previously, I taught a younger colleague how to use a tool,
and thinking it would be good for them to try it themselves first,
I told them, 'Ask me again if you don't understand,'
and I headed to a meeting.

When I returned,
that colleague hadasked another senior colleague,
and had finished the work properly.

Originally, that is
a very positive action of not leaving what you don't understand as it is,
and taking the initiative to ask and move forward. ✨

But at that time, even though I should have wanted them to try it themselves,

I felt a little frustrated, thinking,'What was lacking in the way I taught them?'
💦

Perhaps,
rather than watching your colleague's actions,
you were watching "yourself who wasn't relied upon."

Thinking about it later,
since I wasn't there,
it was natural for them to ask another senior colleague.

Rather,
not stopping yourself,
being able to ask the necessary person and move forward
must have been a very important step.

Even with the same event,
it can sometimes look like "frustration,"
and other times look like "growth."

You might think you are looking at the event,
but in reality, you may have been looking through
the wishes and anxieties within yourself.

When I noticed that difference,
I felt that the direction of the heart
might be slightly changing how reality is perceived 🌿

For example,
even with the same failure,

whether you perceive it as "I'm no good 😣" or
perceive it as "there is something to learn from this 🤔."

Just by that,
the next action you choose changes significantly.

And that difference,
little by little, changes the shape of your next step.

That is precisely why,
especially when you think, "I want to change how I see things right now,"

before trying to change the outside,
turning your eyes toward your own inside
might be one starting point 😌

😌 It's okay to have days when you can't be positive

Having said that,
I don't think you need to try to be positive all the time.

It's okay to have days when you feel down,
and days when you can't accept things well.

However,
at times like that, suddenly,

"What kind of state is my heart in right now?"

Just by being able to notice that,
room to adjust little by little begins to emerge 🌿

Noticing the habits of your heart
might be a time for understanding yourself,
rather than for changing yourself.

🌼 Let's take a moment to re-examine recent events

If you'd like,
please try to recall one recent event.

At that time,
how did you feel when you received it?

And,
if there were another way to perceive it,
how would it look?

Have you ever taken someone's words or actions
as "being rejected"?

But was that really
an event that rejected you?

Reality is not made up of events alone;
depending on how you perceive those events,
the way you see things changes little by little...✨

When you think about it that way,
I feel like I can see
a little bit of what I can do for myself right now.😌

Being positive isn't about forcing yourself to be cheerful;
it might just start quietly
by noticing what kind of heart you are using to view events right now.🌿

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