When Unconscious 'Assumptions' Unravel, Both Work and Mind Become Lighter

Today, I would like to write about the 'assumptions' that are always by our side, like invisible window glass.

This is a story I especially want to share with those who are starting something new, including myself, and those who are self-employed.

The 'invisible wall' that forms in the heart before you know it

For example, like the clear light of a day when you wake up early.

Somewhere in your heart, a small voice says, 'Who am I to do this?' or 'Maybe it won't go well.'

In reality, when viewed from the outside, there is no wall at all, but
the 'invisible line' you drew yourself
gently tries to stop the feelings that want to move forward.

That is an 'assumption'.

Before you realize it, it has soaked into your body and your heart.

Why do assumptions hinder success?

Assumptions are also a form of kindness that has protected you.

They are the wisdom of the heart you have accumulated since childhood, such as 'so I don't fail' or 'so I'm not disliked'.

But when you become an adult and start working for yourself,

that assumption
can become a wind that gently pushes your back,
or it can become a shadow that makes you stand still.

'Money is something you earn through hardship'

'Success is only for a limited number of people'

'I am the one who helps others, and I'm not good at receiving'

Such words
unconsciously keep pressing the small brakes on your actions.

I myself was also long trapped in a cage of 'I can't'

The old me used to assume that 'I don't have any strengths'.

I'm not as skillful as other people.

I'm afraid of failure, I'm afraid of being judged.

But I encountered StrengthsFinder, and
I began to realize that 'there are seeds of strength within my own patterns of thinking and acting'.

For example, if you have strong 'Empathy' or 'Harmony', you tend to put yourself last.

Helping someone is so natural that I felt just a little bit of fear about 'receiving'.

A small breakthrough to loosen assumptions

Assumptions don't disappear all at once.

But little by little, you can gently shine a light on their existence.

• 'What kind of words are you saying to yourself right now?'

• "Is this choice really what I want?"

• "What would someone else say to me?"

And, making time to gently give yourself permission,
"It's okay for me to receive this now, too."

"You are fine just as you are."

Success isn't just about gaining something.

Stepping even one step out of an invisible cage,
and trying to believe in yourself—
I believe that small step is the greatest success of all.
I truly think so.

If you are feeling a little tired right now,
or if the shadow of an assumption is flickering in your mind,
know that

you are fine just as you are.

Like the light of a new morning,
may a gentle, flexible breeze blow for you as well.

Let's keep walking today with a kind heart.

That assumption might actually be caused by a 'bias in your strengths'.

Knowing your natural qualities can help you notice unconscious habits.

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If you are feeling the same way,
I would be happy if we could walk together in this space.

Thank you so much for reading until the end.

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May a gentle light shine upon your every day.