To You Who Cannot Express Your Feelings

—That might be because you are "too kind."

In truth, there is something you want to say.

Even though the muddled feelings and the words you want to say are certainly there inside your heart.

When you try to say them,
the words don't come out, or it feels like your throat is blocked.

You end up suppressing yourself, thinking, "Oh well..."

Did you think that was becauseyou are not kind to yourself?

No, it is actually the opposite.

It may be proof that you possess a deep kindness,the desire to cherish the other person.

1. Hiding your true feelings was a survival strategy

We all learn from our past experiences.

"If I say it this way, I might hurt them."

"It doesn't matter if someone like me says it."

The background to why you started thinking that way
is sometimes related to the "anxiety" or "fear" you felt when you were small.

Therefore,
you are not weak for being unable to speak your true feelings.

You are someone who has tried very hard.is what you are.

2. When you "accept your own feelings yourself," things will change little by little

Your true feelings don't have to be told to someone else right away.

Start by gently noticing the "real feelings" that exist within you.

"What did you really want to do?"

"What kind of words did you want to be told?"

"Are you pushing yourself too hard?"

Writing them down in a notebook is also recommended.

As you put them into words, you might feel your heart softening little by little.

3. Expressing your true feelings does not necessarily mean hurting someone

"If I say it, I might make them feel bad."

"What if they end up hating me?"

When such anxieties come first, you tend to stay silent.

However,
the "real feelings" inside you
can also become a "bridge" to connect with someone.is what they are.

For example...
"Thank you for telling me honestly."

If they respond like that, you might be a little surprised.

Even so, such experiences will gradually
cultivate the peace of mind in your heart that "it is okay to express them."

🌱 Question Corner to Connect with Readers 🌱

To you who read this article.

If you would like, please try answering in your heart.

・ Recently, was there something where you thought, "I actually felt this way, but I couldn't say it..."?
・ What words would you like to say to yourself at that time?
・ If there is something you think, "I want to express it like this someday," please let me know.

I would be happy if you wrote it in the comments section, or if you just kept the feeling to yourself!

Lastly.

Even if you cannot speak your true feelings, you are living your life properly.

Every day, you are doing your best.

Please acknowledge that fact more than anyone else, even yourself.

I hope that you, being the kind person you are, can also be kind to yourself.

If I have been able to help with that, I am very happy.