The beginning of kindness is not blaming yourself for what you cannot do

I feel heavy, and I can't get anything done from the morning.

There are nights when I end up blaming myself, thinking, "I failed again today."

With a mountain of things to do and my mind in a tangle,
when my heart and body become unable to move,
I inevitably end up convinced that "I am weak" or "pathetic."

However, even on such days, the sprout of "kindness" remains within you.

In psychology, it is said that "self-acceptance" is very important.

Acknowledging your "unable self" is neither selfishness nor giving up.

It is a choice of "kindness" that stands by yourself.

I, too, have always been tense, feeling that I must give my all to both my family and my work.
But in the end, I would just get exhausted and spend my days feeling down, thinking, "I haven't accomplished anything."

As I blamed myself more and more, I felt the depths of my heart hardening.

One quiet night, while drinking a glass of water, I suddenly thought,

"I couldn't do anything today, but I still managed to get through the day."

When I acknowledged that, my heart felt suddenly lighter.

Because I realized that even my "unable self" has a connection to yesterday, and there is proof that I have been doing my best.

Perhaps true kindness begins on the day you stop blaming yourself.

Without denying your failures or weaknesses, please accept everything—your mistakes, your pauses, and everything else—by saying, "You worked hard to get this far."

By being kind to yourself even on days when you can't do anything,
maybe you will have a few more smiles tomorrow.

"Cannot" does not mean you are worthless.

It is surely proof that you have kept moving, a small rest for yourself.

There are days when you can take action, and days when you need to rest.

Within that rhythm, your kindness grows,
and I believe it eventually connects to kindness for someone else.

I am still on the path, but I am also working daily on "accepting myself as I am."

I would be happy if I could gently stand by your journey somewhere.

Thank you for reading.

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