Good Patience, Painful Patience

Hello, I'm Maru.

Through my experience of changing from being super negative, I share the secrets to living comfortably and how to gain your true self.

Do you ever think, "It's fine if I just endure it," and
suppress your own emotions?

Enduring even when you're angry,

Enduring even when you're sad,

Enduring even when things are tough,

For a long time, I
controlled my emotions by
enduring.

Because I wouldn't get emotional,
there were few conflicts,
and I was often relied upon by those around me.

Since my parents and the adults around me praised me when I endured,
I sometimes felt that
enduring was a good thing.

However, as I continued doing that,
even though "enduring" should be painful,
I gradually stopped being able to tell.

Enduring became so much of a habit that

"If I just endure it, things will go well."

I ended up convincing myself of that.

Relationships are important, so I'll endure here.
It feels unreasonable, but I'll endure here.
I'm not convinced, but I'll endure here.

When you endure and suppress your true feelings,
you shut yourself in a shell,
you become unable to express emotions,
and your motivation is sapped...

You should stop enduring in a way that numbs your heart.

So, what kind of endurance is okay? It is
when it is accompanied by your own will.

For example,
doing rigorous training to aim for a gold medal.
Practicing to make your dreams come true even when you want to play.
Working hard because you want to achieve results at work.

If you are convinced of it yourself
in order to obtain the results that lie ahead,
that is good endurance, isn't it?

I want to cherish this kind of endurance.

However, even if you don't have the will to do so,
patience is necessary to follow laws and rules.

Just because you want money doesn't mean you can break in to steal,
and it is not okay to hurt people.

Please only practice patience

when you are "exercising patience of your own will, for your own sake."

♪

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for reading until the end.

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