Choose a life of being appreciated over a life of not being disliked

Hello, I'm Maru.

Through my experience of changing from being super negative, I share the secrets to living comfortably and how to embrace your true self.

"How can I make people even happier?"

I think about things like that now, but
I used to head in the complete opposite direction.

"What if someone says something again?"
"I'd hate for things to go wrong..."

My mind was filled with anxiety.

That's why
I was always looking for
"ways not to be criticized" or
"ways not to be disliked".

But that was an exhausting way to live.

"Is this okay?"
"Will I be disliked?"

I was always walking on eggshells,
leaving my own feelings behind.

But that was like
desperately searching for a "non-existent correct answer."

After all, even if you look at athletes or celebrities,
no matter how hard they work,
there are always people who criticize them, right?

If even people who achieve such great results are like that,
then a "way to be disliked by no one"
doesn't exist anywhere.

However, just because I realized that,
"Well, I guess I don't have to worry about it!"
I couldn't think that way.

Rather, thinking that I would be disliked no matter what,
I became afraid
of interacting with people altogether.

That was when it happened.

"If you think about how to live without being criticized or disliked, it becomes boring, so why not think about how to be appreciated?"

I was told that.

"If you think about how you can make people happy, it becomes fun, and I think the probability of being liked and being empathized with will also increase."

At that moment, the fog in my heart
felt like it had cleared.

Instead of "trying not to be disliked,"
"trying to be appreciated"

Just by changing the direction of my thinking,
the way my heart moves is completely different.

・Greet people with a smile
・Tell others what you appreciate about them
・Offer help
・Say "thank you"
・Listen well to others, and so on.

As I started acting with the intention of bringing joy to others,
before I knew it, the number of "people who are comfortable to be around" increased.

Even if you are criticized,
or your intentions are misunderstood,
if you have trusted companions by your side,
you can overcome it.

So, when you feel anxious,
try asking yourself, "What can I do to make them happy?"
think about that.

Why not do one thing today
that you can do to make someone happy?

It will lead to days where you can
interact with others with peace of mind.

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until the end.

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