What I want to value more than "I have to do it right!"

Hello, this is Maru.

A colleague at work was feeling down and said,
"I'm starting to find it exhausting to keep trying so hard..."

I thought, "There's no need to push yourself that hard!" so I told them,
"In that case, why don't you try stopping?"
and

"Is that even allowed?"

they said, looking very surprised.

Up until now,they couldn't feel at ease unless they did things properlyso
they had been pushing themselves even when it was difficult.

What's more,
they said they had never even questioned it because they were convinced it was a good thing.

I have to do it right,
I have to do it well,
I have to be reliable,
I have to be proper.

There are things we unconsciously mutter to ourselves in our heads,
aren't there?

I think everyone has felt that way at least once.

To avoid being scolded,
"I have to do it right!"

To avoid being left out,
"I have to do it well!"

When you think like that,
the pressure makes you tense.

You end up needing twice as much energy as usual.

Moreover, in order to do things properly,
"Come on! Keep going!!"
you start whipping yourself into shape.

Rest is not allowed,
and you end up just keep pushing yourself...

Looking at it this way, it's scary, isn't it?

Having a strong sense of responsibility
and trying to fulfill your duties
is an amazing thing.

However,

I have to do it right!
I have to do it well!
I have to be reliable!
I have to be proper!

These words
drain energy from you.

Instead of that,
why not try enjoying it more?
That is what I think.

Having said that, when you hear the word 'enjoy',
'No, that's impossible.'
is what you think, so you end up trying too hard, don't you?
(I also had that side of myself popping up all the time.)

However, this idea of 'trying to enjoy it' is,

'keeping a mindset of enjoying things'

is what I think it means.

As the focus of your consciousness shifts,
and you become able to enjoy things even a little bit,
your energy will be recharged,
and once that energy builds up,
you will be able to move even more.

In this way, an energy cycle opposite to the one you had before
will be created.

'Keeping a mindset of enjoying things'

Please start by being conscious of this.

When you are conscious of it,
your brain will start to look for
information that makes you happy.

Thank you for reading
until the end.

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it would be a great encouragement for the future!