[Why doesn't Hiroyuki get shaken?] Relationship worries | A 'perspective' to protect your heart

Why does that one remark bother me so much?

At night, in the quiet of the room, only the light of the smartphone stands out.

Words that should be meaningless somehow linger.

(Why am I so bothered by this...)

Even though I know it's better not to care, I can't let it go.

Are you leaving that sense of discomfort unaddressed?

Further on, you will begin to see its true nature.

Click.

The sound of a video playing.

The boy leaned back into the sofa.

On the screen, Hiroyuki is speaking calmly.

The other person was clearly irritated.
Their voice grew stronger little by little.

"No, that's wrong, isn't it?"

Hiroyuki remains unchanged.

"That's just your impression, isn't it?"

Thud.

He speaks as if placing his words down.

And before you know it, the other person starts to crumble.

"Why would you say something like that!"

A voice is raised.

But Hiroyuki was quiet.

"No, that's not the point, is it?"

Click.

I felt like something else had shifted out of place.

The boy moved his smartphone a little further away.

"...That's amazing."

(Why is he so calm?)

Normally, people get shaken.

If someone hits you with harsh words,
you react at least a little bit.

At least, the boy was like that.

(If it were me, I'd definitely be annoyed.)

The video continues.

The other person gets even more heated.

But Hiroyuki doesn't change.
He speaks calmly, at a steady rhythm.

(Isn't this exhausting?)

Suddenly, a sense of discomfort arose.

(Wait... could it be?)

The boy sat up a little.

(He's not even fighting in the first place.)

The other person is talking in terms of "winning or losing."

They are trying to push with emotion.

But Hiroyuki is different.

He is looking at the structure.

(He's not standing in the same place.)

Click.

Something clicked in his head.

In many cases, people get on the same playing field.

If they say something, you say it back.
If they push, you push back.
That's why you get worn out.

But he was different.

There is distance from the start.

And he doesn't break that distance.

(Ah... so that's why.)

The boy smiled slightly.

"I see."

It's a little different from strength.

It's not patience either.

It was just a way of looking at things.

He doesn't take the other person with the "same weight."

The boy stares at his smartphone.

(I can use this.)

A few days later.

Click.

The sound of typing on a computer keyboard.

The boy was looking at a certain comment.

A social media post.

Attached to it was a single remark.

"That's completely wrong, isn't it?"

Short.
But it strangely bothers him.

(This again...)

If it were the boy from a little while ago, he would have been thinking.

How to reply.
What is correct.

But that day was different.

(Wait a minute.)

He raises his perspective just a little bit.

(This person is still at that level.)

At that moment.
Something slipped away.

It wasn't anger.
It wasn't resignation.

He just keeps his distance.

The boy let out a light breath.

"...Well, whatever."

Clack.

The sound of putting down the smartphone.

He didn't reply.

(There's no need to fight.)

At that moment, he realized.

In many cases, people try to "be understood."
They try to convey what is right.

But that is difficult.
Because the premises are different.

You keep explaining to someone with a different premise.

Naturally, you'll be out of sync.
While out of sync, you push against each other.

That's why it's tiring.

The boy looked up at the ceiling.

(What, it's simple.)

Don't try to change the other person.
Don't try to make them understand.

Just change your position.

With just that, the world changes.
The person in the video,
looks like he is denying the other person.

But in reality, it's different.

He hasn't treated them as heavy from the start.

(So that's why he's fine no matter what is said.)

The boy smiled a little.

"This is easy."

It wasn't coldness.

It was actually the opposite.
Don't force a collision.
Don't force mutual understanding.

That's why unnecessary friction doesn't occur.

In many cases, people,
face each other at the "same height" too much.

That's why they get hurt.
That's why they get worn out.
But if you change your perspective just a little bit,

"They're still at that level."

That's all it becomes.
There is no emotion attached to it.
There is just distance.

The boy closed his eyes quietly.

(I'll remember this.)

People get shaken when they face each other at the same height.

If you change your position just a little, things become quiet.

Is that distance an escape?

Or is it a choice?

Right now,
at what distance are you facing whom?

You don't need to rush for an answer.

But when you notice that difference,
something will begin to change quietly.

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